Do you have a partner who’s incredibly attractive, charismatic and charming? If you are, then lucky you!
But being human, you may be worried that someone would try to take your partner from you. After all, if they’re attractive and funny, other people may desire to move in on your relationship and try to usurp you as the current partner. If you’re worried, you may want to first assess whether you have any reason to be. Is your partner particularly flaky, or do they show signs of wanting to stray?
“If a woman ever steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can’t be stolen.” – Unknown
If the relationship is long-term, do you feel it’s run its course and your partner has feelings of wanting to move on? Or, if the relationship is newer, you may feel like it’s a little rocky, and that anyone could come through and ruin it. Learning how to deal with jealousy and make sure no one takes your partner from you can be hard, but here are some ways to make sure someone doesn’t steal your partner from you.
Here Are 7 Signs That Someone Is Looking To Steal Your Partner
1. Social Media
Do you notice someone who is constantly liking all of his posts on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchats? This might be a sign that someone is trying to steal him away from you. This may be friendly behavior all on its own. So when someone is liking every single post that your partner makes, it may signify that they hope to make sure your partner pays more attention to them than they are to you.
2. They gossip about you
Everyone likes to gossip – it’s practically human nature! However, someone who is looking to steal your partner will more than likely gossip or talk badly about you behind your back – and oftentimes to your partner! They will make sure that they pick on every single one of your flaws and point them out to your partner repeatedly.
3. They’re overly affectionate
Someone who doesn’t respect your relationship is going to be overly affectionate with your partner in ways that often make you uncomfortable. If this person is touching your partner excessively on the arm, or giving them extremely long hugs, it’s most likely a sign that they’re seeking to move in and take your partner from you.
4. They’re just like you
There should be nothing stopping your partner from making new friends. In fact, you should encourage it! However, if their new friend seems suspiciously just like you, it may be a sign that they’re trying to move in on your relationship. If they copy all of your personality traits and endearing mannerisms, it may be a sign that they’re trying to get your partner to start thinking of them the same way they think of you.
5. They laugh at EVERYTHING your partner says
Even if you love your partner and think they’re the funniest person on earth, the only person who should be laughing at everything your partner says is you. If someone is acting like they’re the funniest person in the world, they may be trying to butter them up and flatter them, which is a sign that they’re looking to move in. Author Madison Moore says, “Laughing leads to touching which is an excuse to create a connection and have some sort of closeness.”
6. Constant texting
Again, your partner should have friends. It’s natural to make them, keep them, and communicate with them. But if someone is texting your partner at all hours of the night, every single day, constantly … they’re probably looking at them as more than a friend.
7. They always want to hang out
Someone who is after your partner is definitely going to want to make sure that they’re seeing your partner more than you are. If your partner seems to always been hanging out with one specific person whenever you check in on them, then it’s a definite sign that they’re probably viewing your partner as more than just a friend.
Here are some ways to stop someone from stealing your partner:
If your partner has never showed signs of wanting to leave you, then freaking out can be one way to put strain on a relationship where there wasn’t any before. Freaking out will only ensure that your partner will start to feel as if you don’t trust them, which can make them feel resentful.
Communicate with your partner
If you start acting nervous and jealous without letting them know why, they can get very confused. If you feel like someone is really trying to get in between you and your partner, the best thing to do is keep the line of communication between the two of you open.
Assess the relationship
Relationship expert, psychologist and author Dr. Noelle Nelson says, “If you want to protect your relationship, look first to the quality of your friendship. Stay involved in your man’s life, so he will want to stay involved — with you.” The same goes for women too.
If the relationship is fairly new, it may be possible that someone else could come in just at the right time and try to form a stronger connection with your partner. However, if the relationship has been going on for quite some time, it may be less likely that your partner is noticing that someone else is interested in them.
Stand up for yourself
You don’t want to cause unnecessary drama by trying to start a fight, but establishing firm boundaries is the way to go. Talk to the other person and let them know that their behavior is making you uncomfortable, and you would prefer if they found their own relationship – two is enough for yours!
Call their bluff
If you feel secure in your relationship, telling them to “Go ahead and try!” might just be enough to get them to back off and bother someone else. If your relationship is strong and secure, then you won’t even have to worry about whether your partner will give them a second thought.
Give your partner attention and affection
If your relationship is starting to dwindle, and you feel like your partner could potentially find happiness somewhere else, maybe it’s time to put the spark back in the romance. Increasing the amount of attention and affection you give your partner can be all they need to feel happy and satisfied in the relationship again.
Let them go
This one is a tough pill to swallow – but in the end, someone can’t really steal your partner away from you, especially if there’s no partner to speak of. Letting them go if that time comes will be less painful for everyone involved, even if it may be extremely upsetting. But if the relationship is meant to last, then your partner will put in the same amount of effort that you do.
Like dating and relationship coach Marina Margulis says, “The best thing you can do in such a situation is walk away with dignity. I’m not saying it doesn’t sting. But resisting it will only make the situation worse. So, walk away and get ready to meet the guy who’s truly right for you.”