We hear it time and time again, “stop caring about what other people think.” Well, most people agree that’s a lot easier said than done.
The world is full of opportunities to compare ourselves to others, hoping they’ll approve. When we do, we usually end up falling short of their expectations and ours. The reality is, however, that we are rarely comparing apples to apples because we only have part of the picture.
We don’t see the rocky road, the unhappiness, and the trials because most people only put their best on display. And in the height of seeking approval, we are usually not in our best state.
Our day is spent doing things because everyone else is doing them, not because we think they add value to our lives. We measure ourselves against other people’s accomplishments, not purely on our individual achievements.
How do we break free from caring about what other people are doing and thinking? Well, the first step is to realize that nobody cares. They just don’t.
Nobody cares about what you’re doing or not, because they too are worried about themselves and what other people think. And “others” means everyone as a group, not any one person as an individual.
When you find yourself trying to gain approval or fearful of standing out on your own, remember the strength you need is within.
7 Quotes To Remember When You’re Surrounded By Negativity
1. Remember this quote when other people don’t understand you.
“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions courageously and honestly.”— Albert Einstein
2. Remember this quote when people think you’re crazy for doing what you do.
“If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that… I believe in what I do, and I’ll say it.” ? John Lennon
3. Remember this quote when you are dreaming big.
“So many people along the way, whatever it is you aspire to do, will tell you it can’t be done. But it all it takes is imagination. You dream. You plan. You reach.”? Michael Phelps
4. Remember this quote when people disagree with your approach.
“Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” ? Tina Fey
5. Remember this quote when it feels like you are going it alone.
“Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.” ? Cynthia Kersey
6. Remember this quote when you feel like you need to be less than you are.
“There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.” ? Marianne Williamson
7. And when all else fails, remember this quote.
“My dear, I don’t give a damn.” ? Margaret Mitchell
Let’s face it, we can’t please everyone. It’s an impossible task to live up to the expectations of someone who will end up judging us regardless of what we do.
When we allow the judgments of others to affect what we do and how we do it, nobody wins. We don’t win, and the other person certainly doesn’t win.
It’s up to us to start standing up for what we believe in because there will always be someone who will disagree with us. In fact, if people aren’t disagreeing, then we probably are being true to ourselves.
It’s time we changed our focus to the people that matter in our lives. When we focus on the people we love and who love us, the other stuff seems to fade into the background.
It’s when we lose sight of what’s really important that we become over-accommodating. By trying to please others so they’ll think better of us, we are telling ourselves that we aren’t good enough the way we are. Eventually, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When we know who we are and what our priorities are in life, what other people think of us, becomes less important. We have to believe in those values, and more importantly, in ourselves.
There are a lot of “followers” in the world. They are the people that are comfortable in their routine and content with the status quo. But to live our authentic and happiest life, we must break free from the pack and live according to our values.
True success comes when we know we are being judged and then realize we don’t care. When that happens, we know we are living our best life.