“Anyone who says he can see through women is missing a lot.” – Groucho Marx
Everyone appreciates someone with good looks. Appearance isn’t everything, though. There are things that men find particularly appealing in women that go beyond their looks. Of course, a lot of men are drawn in first by what they see on the outside. On the other hand, some men become attracted to women by things other than their looks.
In fact, some men find these particular traits more appealing than their appearance altogether. If you’re wondering what it is that draws men to you – or, even, if you’re wondering what you can do to attract more positive men into your life – consider enhancing or working on these traits within yourself. They’re all positive – so you’ll feel better about yourself, and your relationships all around will benefit!
5 TRAITS MEN LOVE ABOUT WOMEN (MORE THAN GOOD LOOKS)
1. GOOD PERSONALITY
This seems like a no-brainer, because everyone likes someone with a good personality. However, a charming personality with a sense of humor can supersede men’s interest in outward appearances altogether. Being able to connect with someone is a basic human need, and having a personality that meshes with your own is a great way to form a real and lasting connecting.
A sense of humor goes hand-in-hand with a good personality. Being able to laugh at yourself (or him) – in a good-natured manner will make the both of you feel good and more comfortable around one another. If you’re laid back, like to joke, and love to laugh, many men will be absolutely charmed and you’ll find yourself starting to form a good connection.
2. GOOD LISTENER
Listening requires more than just hearing what a person is saying and waiting for your turn to enter the conversation. An active listener takes in what their partner is saying, and processes it and offers feedback and conversation on the words that were said to them. Some men have trouble with this, too, but all men appreciate a woman who is a good listener.
When you demonstrate active listening skills, your partner will be more likely to reciprocate, because they feel like they’re being heard. Being a good listener will benefit you not just in your love life, but in all areas of your relationships, both familial and platonic.
Men appreciate women who are willing to compromise and negotiate on an issue. Staying rigid in something is a good way to cause stress and tension in any type of relationship, but especially a romantic one. Compromising doesn’t mean giving up your stance altogether, however. It also doesn’t mean conceding to everything your man wants!
Compromising is working together to find a solution that benefits both parties – and compromising works both ways! Compromising benefits a relationship in the long run, and gives you the skills to communicate and work through your problems.
If you’re the type of woman who needs to make lists and schedules and have everything planned out to the second, you might want to consider loosening up just a tiny bit. Being able to roll with the punches and take mishaps in stride is a trait many men adore in a woman.
Being spontaneous is also about random acts of love, kindness, appreciation. It’s also about being able to enjoy when your man plans a surprise vacation, or shows up with flowers at your office. Being spontaneous is one of the ways to keep all the spark alive in a relationship.
Women who own what they do and wear their accomplishments with pride are the kind of women that men find attractive regardless of outward looks. This doesn’t mean you have to have a prestigious job or an impressive CV – it just means that you know what you want and aren’t afraid to go out and get it. Being happy with who you are and feeling fulfilled in your life is enough to pique a man’s interest.
There’s nothing more appealing than a woman who knows who she is and what she wants out of life, regardless of what that may be. Knowing that you’re capable of achieving your dreams will make you feel good as well! Being confident in who you are will boost how you feel, and be a positive force in all your relationships.
Men may be notorious in media and pop culture for only caring about looks – but that couldn’t be further from the truth. There are plenty of things about women that men adore, and they’re all traits that can be found in anyone, regardless of gender! Recognize the things in yourself that make you attractive beyond your appearance. Once you’re able to harness them, you’ll be irresistible to the men in your life, and you’ll attract more positive influences to surround yourself with.