Loyalty is an essential quality in any close relationship. When your person is loyal, it’s a strong assurance of another person.  Whether it be in work, business, family, friendship, or a relationship, loyalty builds from specific characteristics.

Just because someone is a family member, neighbor, or friend does not mean they will be loyal. Ideally, we wish that were true (and hopefully someday it is), but for now loyalty must be earned.

Much like steps on a ladder, there are specific qualities that you can see in a person to know if they are truly loyal. We call this the  “Loyalty Ladder”.

A genuinely loyal person will be loyal because they want to.  Loyalty through obligation can be dangerous. But, sometimes, it’s hard to detect. People can be deceiving due to their agendas and show this subtly through their words and actions.

To help you tell the difference, this article will explore the behaviors that reveal loyalty.

Here are 5 ways to recognize a truly loyal relationship:


1 – A loyal relationship is supportive

A loyal person will reach out to you when you need them.  They care enough to stay aware and take action when they know you need a pick-me-up or just a little reminder to stay on track.

Loyalty is not just about being there during the good times but also standing by someone’s side during their challenges. A loyal person is like a pillar of strength, always ready to offer support when needed. They are attuned to your emotions and can sense when you’re feeling down or overwhelmed. It’s not just about grand gestures; sometimes, it’s the small acts of checking in, sending a thoughtful message, or just listening that show how much they care. Their actions are a testament to their commitment to your well-being.

2 – A loyal relationship is respectful

If someone talks about someone else to you behind their back, who do you think they’ll talk about when you’re not around? A loyal person will be respectful of you away from your presence. They will decline the opportunity to spread gossip and may even deliver a serious message, sharing their opinion of gossiping with the people doing it.

Respect is a cornerstone of any strong relationship. A loyal person understands the importance of maintaining respect, not just when you’re around, but even in your absence. They won’t indulge in petty gossip or backbiting. Instead, they’ll stand up against it, emphasizing the importance of not speaking ill of someone who’s not present. By doing so, they not only protect your reputation but also set a standard for others to follow.

3 – A loyal relationship is trustworthy

A loyal person will share their honest opinion (even if it’s not always what you want to hear).  Sometimes, they want to share their experience with you, hoping that it will give you insight and help you follow your best path.

Trust is earned, and a loyal person works hard to maintain it. They are open and honest, even if it means sharing an uncomfortable truth. Their aim is not to hurt you but to provide insights that might be beneficial for you. They value your trust and would never jeopardize it. Their honesty is a reflection of their commitment to the relationship and their desire for your growth and well-being.

In a relationship, a loyal person loves you (and only you) fully and completely.


4 – A loyal relationship is sincere

A truly loyal person is always sincere. They show very subtle, yet powerful signs that they care. You’ll find that they are faithful in a way that they show up during the good times and the bad times. Loyal people are supportive (even loving) for no other reason than that they care.

Sincerity is the hallmark of a loyal person. Their actions are genuine, stemming from a place of deep care and concern. They don’t have ulterior motives; their primary goal is your happiness and well-being. Whether it’s celebrating your successes or being a shoulder to cry on during tough times, they are consistently present. Their love and support are unconditional, driven solely by their affection for you.

5 – A loyal relationship has integrity

Integrity is about doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. A person with integrity values their own moral compass and societal norms. They treat others with kindness, understanding the importance of self-care and respecting boundaries. Their actions are a reflection of their character, and they take responsibility for their mistakes. Apologizing and learning from their errors is crucial for them. Upholding their reputation and moral standing is of utmost importance.

When one does what is right by their own values and morals and is supported by societal norms, that’s integrity. They are kind. They properly care for themselves and others around them. Moreover, they respect boundaries. In fact, they are known for it.

When a person with high integrity makes a mistake, they will apologize, and you’ll find they generally won’t repeat it. It’s important to them to uphold their good character and moral righteousness.


Final Thoughts: Each of us is a work in progress

Personal loyalty is displayed through love, devotion, dedication, and commitment to the well-being of another.

Loyalty is a multifaceted trait that encompasses various emotions and actions. It’s about prioritizing another person’s happiness, being devoted to their cause, dedicating time and effort to support them, and committing to their well-being. It’s a bond that strengthens over time, built on mutual respect, trust, and love.

Still, we must remember – no one is perfect. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. While valuing and seeking loyalty is essential, it’s equally important to understand that everyone is on their growth journey. Instead of being judgmental, it’s crucial to be compassionate and empathetic. Everyone has an innate desire for loyalty and to be loyal. By being understanding and supportive, we can help nurture this trait in ourselves and others.