3 Reasons Why Delaying Intimacy Is Good For Your Relationship

3 Reasons Why Delaying Intimacy Is Good For Your Relationship
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When you met your partner, there was a definite spark that made you want more, but there are at least 3 reasons why you should consider delaying intimacy for the good of your relationship.

Being aware of your physical attraction to another person and choosing to not act on it takes self-control. Self-control is something that can be developed with training, just like a muscle in your body that you exercise. Let’s look at the 3 reasons why delaying intimacy by practicing self-control is good for your relationship.

3 Reasons Why Delaying Intimacy Is Good For Your Relationship

When we are teenagers, we are encouraged to wait to have sex, for our own physical and emotional development. These are also good reasons to wait as an adult. We are still in the process of learning and becoming who we are, so rushing into things with a romantic partner can stop or delay own growth as a person due to the distraction that the other person makes.

It can be very difficult to make good decisions, like choosing to delay intimacy for the good of your relationship, while your hormones are telling you to go full steam ahead. Delaying your passion with your partner is like saying to yourself ‘This person might be worth waiting for so I am making a deliberate choice to wait.’

1. That initial spark of attraction burns out fast

Is this true love? Very few people believe that they can tell that they have met their true love at first sight. It is indeed possible, but usually the attraction that you feel for someone will last only a month or so and that quickly it is gone.

Part of the quick burnout of that spark is that you are fresh and new to your partner in the first part of your relationship. As you become accustomed to each other, what was once special and new about you is now less so. The less mystery there is about you, the less interest your partner may show toward you.

During the time that you are delaying intimacy, you are building trust with each other, which is very important to a relationship. During this time, you can spend time bonding with conversation and learning about what is important to your partner.

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Are you two compatible on your core values? Do you feel strongly about something that your partner feels differently about? It’s better to know now than when it is time to get out of a complicated relationship.

2. Research shows delaying intimacy is better for making a relationship last

Doing what scientists say doesn’t sound romantic, but if you are hoping for a successful relationship with your current mate, delaying intimacy is what you need to do. Think of it this way, if you choose to stay together, you can have sex as long as you are in a happy relationship, but delaying intimacy now means that you will have a longer happy relationship.

Researchers in the Journal of Family Psychology asked the question ‘Is it better to test sexual compatibility as early as possible or show sexual restraint so that other areas of the relationship can develop?’ What they found reveals a reason why delaying intimacy is good for your relationship. The research showed that delaying intimacy ‘was associated with better relationship outcomes, even when controlling for education, the number of sexual partners, religiosity, and relationship length.’

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A second study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that having sex early was associated with poor relationship happiness in marriage, especially for women. The researchers say that when couples have sex early on in their relationship, they also decide to move in together too quickly, which can put a strain on the relationship.

3. Waiting is rare, and therefore more valuable

Things that we have lots of, like air and water are relatively easy to get and cost little, so we value them little. What is cheap or free is not valued, but what is rare, like pearls, are treated carefully, highly prized, and highly valued. Think of the first time with your partner as a valuable gift that you can give only once.

Although you want your first intimate moment together to be special, you also don’t need to put pressure on yourself to make it memorable. The longer you can delay intimacy, the more you get to feel comfortable when you are close to your partner and the less stress you will feel about it.

Your initial spark of romance includes rapid pulse, higher blood pressure, breathing faster, sweating and all of the usual signs of being anxious or stressed. Allowing yourselves some time to become more relaxed around each other will help make the eventual moment of intimacy more relaxed and pleasurable, which is good for your relationship.

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