You know that person who seems to have a flair of good luck? The one who, even though isn’t drop-dead gorgeous, is always able to get whatever she wants? There is more to the outer beauty of these people. They light up a room when they walk into it. This type of person is able to accomplish much in life because of attitude, charisma, or something as simple as kindness. Their smile exudes confidence, compassion and joy. You may wonder what separates them from others.
Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, has researched and studied the emotional connection of people. He has recognized that there are basic characteristics that make some people more friendly and charismatic to others.
“When influential people speak, conversations spread like ripples in a pond. And those ripples are multidirectional; influencers inspire everyone around them to explore new ideas and think differently about their work.” Likeable people are conscious of how they treat others. They believe that “Few things kill likeability as quickly as arrogance.” Irresistible people don’t act as if they are better than you. They actually believe that you have the ability to succeed, and create the life that you want. But, what’s the secret to truly being this type of person?
Here are 15 things irresistible people do differently:
1. They treat everyone with dignity and respect.
Irresistible people don’t put others down. What makes them so likeable is the ability to treat a homeless person in the same manner that he would treat the CEO to a huge company. To this person, there is no class or status that separates anyone. We are all part of the human race.
2. They don’t gossip.
The charismatic person has no need to utilize gossip as their motive to partake in a conversation. They are always bringing in the best of themselves, and allowing others to shine. This is what makes them so generous in uplifting others. Gossip is a negative trait, and they have little tolerance for it.
3. They treat others as they expect to be treated.
Dr. Bradberry believes that these type of folks follow a healthy life rule that says you should treat others the way you wish to be treated. “But that rule is flawed because it assumes that everyone wants to be treated the same way. In reality, people have different desires and goals.”
The irresistible person understands this and follows not the golden rule, but the platinum one: treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
4. They have healthy boundaries.
Irresistible people don’t try to please everyone all the time. They know that there is a time and place for everything. They don’t give more of themselves. They have healthy ways of assisting and giving to others. But, they never run themselves ragged. These people take care of themselves. And, in that ability to sustain boundaries, they show a beautiful example of self-love to others.
5. They are genuine.
These type of people do not pretend to be someone they are not. What you see is what you get. They exude self-confidence. The irresistible person doesn’t have to have super-model looks, but she or he will walk into a room with such confidence that they shine. They know their worth, and never allow others to dictate how they should see themselves.
6. They have integrity.
Albert Einstein said, “Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.” The person with integrity stands in their authenticity. They know what matters and this is passed on to others. They make you question your honesty, principles, and goodness. Integrity is one of the best characteristics that they teach others.
7. They smile at everyone.
The most powerful and attractive quality that an irresistible person has is their ability to always smile, in spite of whatever is going on in their lives. They bring forth laughter with their energy. These likeable people know that a smile is sexier than any outfit, stronger than any pill, and has the ability to break down negativity.
8. They are compassionate.
The irresistible person is empathetic to others. They show compassion to animals, nature, and people. They know that one minute you might be on top of the world, and in an instant you can find yourself struggling. Being compassionate is not just about showing kindness to those you like, but also leaving the zone of comfort and stepping into places that the heart breaks into pieces. They take chances in loving others and they know it’s worth it. They help everyone. They wear their hearts in their sleeves.
9. They love life.
Successful and charming individuals love life. They are not exempt from heart ache, misfortunes, or challenges, but they know that life is priceless and it’s the only thing that is real. This life is for taking chances, loving, and helping others. They cherish every moment, and when they meet someone new, they make that person feel as if they are the most incredible thing in their day.
10. They bring people together.
These people are huge human connectors. They bring like-minded people together. They want to help others succeed. If you are among these type of enchanting individuals, you will notice that they immediately display a sense of connection. They may become your own fairy godmother, helping you reach to the next level. They will immediately draw you a map to get to someone who can help you on your journey.
11. They truly love people.
This is a given. These happy people love people. The irresistible person is the one who coined the term “people person.” They love to be around others. They get inspired by energy and stories. The likeable individual has an ability to attract those who are ready to fly and conquer their own dreams.
12. They know you must work hard to get ahead.
The irresistible person may always wear a smile, but they know that nothing comes without hard work and some struggling. They work hard and succeed with an undeniable thirst for accomplishing their desires. They succeed because they don’t give up. And, when you are among this type of person, you also feel that ability to overcome anything ahead.
13. They listen.
Dr. Bradberry says, “People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows not only that you are listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking good questions.”
The irresistible person has this innate ability to stare into your spirit and truly make you feel as if you are understood, acknowledged and loved.
14. They have positive attitudes.
In spite of all the challenges in life, these folks continue to have positive attitudes. They don’t feed into negativity. They don’t entertain the woe-is-me attitude from anyone. They avoid confrontations and always search for an optimistic answer to the heavy questions in life.
15. They always say “please” and “thank you.”
The ability to show gratitude is a magic wand for the irresistible person. They know that compliments go a long way in the journey of life, but what truly makes others like you are the simple manners: saying “please” and “thank you.” These magic words are never misused, and they know exactly how powerful they are in making others feel understood, acknowledged, and accepted.
Irresistible people are those individuals who have been through emotional roller coasters and major transitional obstacles, and have learned that they aren’t alone in this world. You might just be one of these amazing people. You might be so humble that you don’t recognize how you are changing the world around you. These people know that we have a connection to each other. They make you feel as if you matter. And, that is one of the most profound effects they leave as their legacy: they truly see you, feel you, and care about you.