11 Ways to Support Someone With Anxiety

11 Ways to Support Someone With Anxiety


It’s normal for us to feel on edge from time to time. The demands that are placed on us – from our work, families, finances, etc. – can sometimes feel overwhelming. For people with chronic anxiety, a persistent feeling of unease is a day-long event. The tendency of anxiety-ridden people to mask their illness for fear of being “discovered” often makes the experience more difficult – both for the individual and those who care for them.

If someone that you care for has anxiety, you may feel a loss of control – this is completely normal; just understand that simply being there for your loved one can make the difference.


Here are 11 ways to compassionately support someone with anxiety:


#1 – Be accepting and open.

Simply let the person know that you’re there and willing to listen, without judgment or criticism. If they do open up to you, refrain from giving feedback or advice on what they should or shouldn’t do unless they ask. It’s important to understand that simply allowing them to talk about their thoughts and feelings can bring a sense of relief. It isn’t necessary to analyze everything that they say. Just be present, look them in the eyes, and acknowledge their concerns.

#2 – Educate yourself.

Understanding the medical reasons for anxiety is a great asset and will help you to be part of a better support system. It’s important to remember that an anxiety disorder is not a thought disorder – it is a chemical imbalance. A person with chronic anxiety innately understands this, because as hard as they try to stop the thoughts, the more they realize that this is extremely difficult. Even a basic understanding of the disorder and its symptoms can make you a better, more knowledgeable person to be around.

#3 – Spend time with them.

Just because someone that you love has anxiety doesn’t mean that they don’t want to spend time with you. In fact, you being around your loved one is often a wonderful source of comfort. This is for two reasons: (1) they thoroughly enjoy your company, and (2) your presence makes it more difficult for them to think about their anxiety. Also, try to best to recognize their need for space. If they say things like “I want to be alone” or “I just need time to myself,” make sure that you oblige accordingly.

#4 – Don’t bring it up if unasked.

For a person with chronic anxiety, the affliction can often be a source of embarrassment. While anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of (they can’t help it, after all), it’s still a touchy subject for them. Trying to rationalize a disorder that is often irrational will only subject the person to more uncertainty and shame. Instead, just be present and talk about what they want. If you talk about sports, talk about sports. If you talk about movies, talk about movies and so on.

#5 – Get active.

If you are available and the opportunity presents itself, take the person outside. Exercise is a well-known remedy for anxiety and can bring an almost magical effect on a person’s mindset. Do something fun like go for a hike, take a bike ride, or shoot some baskets. Even a quick stroll at the local park can help alleviate some of the symptoms caused by anxiety. The reason why exercise is so effective is that it causes the release of endorphins – hormones that can create euphoric feelings.

#6 – Remain hopeful.

Anxiety is a treatable condition, it just takes time. There are plenty of free resources available for people who suffer from the disorder. If they ask for advice, suggest something helpful; for example mindfulness meditation, yoga, exercise, or something else. If you get the sense that they are in a desperate condition, suggest (don’t recommend) that they perhaps see a medical professional for a consultation.

#7 – Be yourself.

There is no need to change who you are because your loved one has anxiety. Chances are that they appreciate you for being you and don’t expect anything different. In fact, a sudden change of demeanor – especially to a more “therapeutic” or sullen one – can bring up some sense of guilt in them. Instead, just be yourself. The only exception is if you feel negative or particularly vulnerable to anger; in which case, it is better to be somewhere else.



#8 – Be resilient.

A person you love being afflicted with anxiety can cause emotional distress. When you feel this way, it can be take its toll on your quality of life. It’s important to remember that you’re doing the best you can, and that it’s likely everything will turn out just fine. This situation with your loved one is temporary, so stay tough and take it just one day at a time. That’s all you can do.

#9 – Don’t take things personally

For the person affected, managing anxiety is a difficult and often exhausting task. This is because the constant inner monologue that comes with anxiety often drains them of mental and physical resources. As such, it is important to not take it personally if they suddenly drift out of a conversation, seek solitude, or act standoffish; the acts are simply a byproduct of anxious thoughts.

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