There are some things to remember in life. Here is why…

In this storybook of life, things rarely go as planned. However, the hiccups along the way serve as valuable lessons in our evolution as spiritual beings. Also, the challenges we meet help us appreciate the victories even more, and give us perspective on the beauty within those difficult times. With the complexities of modern life, it’s virtually impossible to avoid some sort of problem.

The key to solving the problems lies in how you deal with them, and the following advice could help you keep things in perspective the next time you feel your like your life is spiraling out of control.

“Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe

11 Things to Remember When Everything Falls Apart


1 – Other people’s problems are not yours.

You probably feel obligated to help solve everyone else’s problems if you have a strong sense of empathy and intuition. However, this can leave you feeling exhausted at the end of the day, and others might start viewing you as their free personal therapist whom they can call at all-night hours. While showing compassion and support for others is essential, you must find a balance between helping others and helping yourself.

2 – Keep going; everything happens for a reason.

Even if you feel that life is merely one catastrophe after another, these difficulties only test us and make us stronger. They enable us to handle future situations in a better way and teach us valuable lessons about life. Without struggles, we would not experience growth as human beings.

3 – Pain is temporary.

Any situation never lasts forever, whether that be a bad breakup, financial struggles, family arguments, or other issues. No matter what you might be going through, console yourself by remembering that you are the master of your emotions. You can see the silver lining in any situation and transmute the pain into an opportunity for growth.

4 – There is a purpose in your pain.

Spiritual teachers in the past commonly advised that we attract what we feel and what we are, so any bad situation we face is often the product of our own thoughts and feelings. This may not always hold, but oftentimes any negative situation can be considered a valuable learning tool and an experience to test our highest selves.

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5 – Take a minute to pray or to channel positive energy.

No matter what you might face, try to look at the bright side of the situation and call on your angels or spirit guides for higher wisdom. They will help ease your frustration or anxiety about the experience and calm your energy so you can better handle the situation. Prayer will put things into perspective and remind you that everything on Earth works in mysterious cosmic ways which we can’t always understand.

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6 – Worrying creates more problems; faith transforms.

No amount of worry will change the situation. It will only leave room for more negative energy and more obstacles for entering your life. Keep a positive mindset and trust that the universe only sends you the experiences that you need to help you transform into the best version of yourself.

“The problem isn’t the problem. It’s your attitude about the problem.” – Captain Jack Sparrow

7 – Maybe you should do exactly what you’re afraid of doing.

The only way to experience growth is to leave the comfort zone behind. Sometimes you need to test your limits and throw caution to the wind to know your true capabilities. You might unearth newfound passions and totally new sides of yourself that you never knew before by conquering your greatest fears.

8 – The bad days allow you to appreciate the good ones even more.

Without bad days, you wouldn’t even recognize the good ones as “good,” because you would only have a limited perspective! The funny thing about life is that we can’t know pleasure without pain, happiness without sadness, victories without struggles, and so on. We live in a dualistic reality, meaning we experience opposite ends of the same spectrum in most aspects of life. Appreciate the whole experience that this human realm can offer because often, the worst occurrences unveil the best lessons.

9 – Remember that you have a LOT of influence and power over your life.

You don’t have to become a victim of circumstance or succumb to defeat; you have total control over your life and can quickly turn a bad situation into a good one. Remember that rainbows only show up after a storm, so you must weather the storm to recognize the lessons it holds.

“The most important decision you can make is to be in a good mood.” – Voltaire

If you let yourself get into a negative mindset, you will again fall into a victim mentality. Resolve to keep your mood up despite your current situation, and the negativity will no longer have any power over you.

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10 – Don’t worry, we all have ups and downs. Just look up and keep going.

The next time you feel swamped by the pressures of modern life, remember that you and millions of others are in the same boat. The best thing to do is to create a life you love actively, and the pressures won’t seem so enormous anymore.

11 – “Keep calm and carry on.”