The idea of the “soulmate” has been the subject of much mystery, confusion, and heartache throughout history, and today, people still wonder if their soulmate exists, and if so, how to make them a part of their life.

No matter your stance on soulmates, you can take the advice below and apply it to many different aspects of your life, including meeting a potential new partner, or even your one and only.

Here are 10 Tips to Help You Find Your Soulmate:


1. Make a list of all the qualities you want in a potential life partner.

You might think, “How does making a silly list help attract my soul mate?” Well, making a list might seem like a waste of time and energy at first, but the Law of Attraction works in mysterious ways. Thoughts always manifest into form eventually, and writing those thoughts down on paper can help speed up the process. Putting your thoughts into written words will also allow you to visually observe the traits you desire in a partner and can help you envision what your ideal partner would look, sound, and act like.

2. Put yourself out there more.

This seems like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people just expect their life partner to waltz into their life without any effort on their part. To attract and meet your soulmate, you have to be willing to show your true colors, remain authentic to your highest self, and unabashedly present yourself to the world without fearing the consequences. You never know who you might meet in the most unexpected places, but the first step is to put yourself in situations that are favorable to bumping into your life partner.

3. Love yourself first.

You can’t possibly attract love if it doesn’t have a home within your heart first, so make sure to love yourself now, as you are. How do you do this? It’s simple: just accept yourself, be kind to yourself, and honor yourself. Loving yourself isn’t conceited or arrogant; it just means that you respect yourself enough to have confidence in your own unique cosmic energy. To manifest more love in your life, it’s essential that you first cultivate it within yourself, and send out that energy into the universe.

4. Make a commitment to understanding yourself fully.

Just as with loving yourself, you can’t understand others or expect them to understand you if you haven’t done some deep reflection. You have to dig deep and uncover all those secrets that even you might not have known about yourself before. To attract your soulmate, you have to appreciate and realize what kind of person you have been, who you are now, and the type of person you wish to become. Knowing yourself will also attract others who have taken that journey within and understand their strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, and personalities.

5. Start saying “yes” to life.

It will be difficult to meet your partner if you always say “no” to new situations or opportunities. If you find yourself doing this often, practice opening yourself up to life more. This doesn’t mean to say yes when your instincts inform you that you shouldn’t, it just means to take a little more risk. Join that dance class you have been dreaming about, move to another state or country if you feel it in your bones, or even just meet up with a new friend for lunch. Life is meant to be enjoyed and lived without abandon, so start living!

6. Honor your gut feelings.

You will meet people in the most bizarre and surprising ways sometimes, and that’s usually because you listened to your intuition. Following your gut feelings just means doing what feels right to you, even if you can’t explain it. Maybe you feel compelled to go to a certain place or get in touch with an old flame for no reason other than your intuition telling you to do so. Tune into your intuition often, because it wants to help direct you on your path in life.

7. Pay attention to subtle signs sent from the Universe specifically for you.

We have mentioned this many times before, but the universe communicates to us through earthly methods, such as playing a song on the radio every time we get in the car, or directing our attention to a certain time on the clock, or even making us aware of an upcoming circumstance in our dreams. Pay attention to these signs and messages, because they could very well point the arrow toward an exciting new person in your life.

8. Open up your heart to love.

Obviously, to attract a partner into your life, you need to accept the love you offer yourself, and equally accept the love others give as well. Even if you have been hurt in the past (haven’t we all?), don’t close yourself off to love. Just learn from your past experiences, and transmute that pain into passion and love for life. Accept and acknowledge your pain, but don’t attach yourself to it; commit yourself to a path of love and compassion instead.

9. Have faith that your soulmate is coming your way.

For positive things to happen in your life, you have to first believe that you deserve it, and have faith that good things will start to manifest. The universe may not send you what you desire right away, but just believe that things are looking up, and that will slowly become your new reality and frequency you operate from.

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10. Don’t fight your current reality; just go with the flow.

Even if you haven’t met anyone you feel spiritually or emotionally connected to yet, that doesn’t mean that the future doesn’t have these things in store for you. Just enjoy the present moment as much as possible, and don’t get too caught up in what the future holds. Live in the now, and you will start learning to enjoy life from your current vantage point; you will see that your grass is already green where you stand, not just on the other side of the fence. 🙂