Midlife crisis: an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age. – Wikipedia
“Midlife crisis begins sometimes in your 40s, when you look at your life and think, ‘Is this all?” And ends about 10 years later, when you look at your life again and think, ‘Actually, this is pretty good.” – Donald Richie
It may sound cliché, but life can be an incredibly difficult journey. From of our birth to the time of our death, any number of things can happen. “That’s life,” as they say. We will all encounter challenges – both internally and externally; often beyond our control – that will either define our defeat us.
A mid-life crisis is no different. This time of challenge and uncertainty can be transformative, terrifying… or even a bit of both. Oftentimes, this time period encompasses a range of emotions, thoughts, and/or physical changes that indicate some type of transformation is occurring.
The point of this article is this: to elaborate on some signs of a mid-life crisis in order to make it more easily-identifiable. But also provide some hope…explaining why this period of life can be an overwhelmingly-positive experience. We are confident it will do just that.
First, here are 10 potential signs of a midlife crisis:
1. Starting to panic about health problems
It’s perfectly natural, as we get older, to pay more attention to our health – including any “signs” of potential trouble. We’re intelligent and logical beings, so we understand that the impermanence of life be mitigated – at least a little bit – by being healthy.
So, not really a big surprise that a mid-age crisis often evokes constant thoughts of health and wellness.
2. Comparing ourselves to friends and other peers
Many people are driven by the perception of success. As a barometer, these same people will compare themselves – money, clothes, cars, homes, etc. – with that of their friends, peers, and even relatives! Middle-age is when most people will “peak” in terms of career, achievements, and other measures of success. When we realize this, we’re more likely to conjure up thoughts of “compare and contrast” with other people.
3. Obsession with losing weight/getting into shape
Desiring strongly to lose weight or get into shape is always a good thing, no matter at what age. For those experiencing a midlife crisis, this can often come in the form of an epiphany; when an unfortunate sense of regret often clasps on. We start thinking “What could I have done?” or “How can I be better?”
These questions are common…especially for those undergoing a midlife transition.
4. A heightened sense of self-worth
As mentioned previously, a midlife crisis often entails comparing oneself with other people. We also do this with our own selves, questioning whether or not we “measured up” to our own expectations. Is our true potential being realized? What have we failed at? What have we succeed at? Is it too late to change?
5. Wanting to quit a job – even if it’s a good one
Ask almost anyone that has to work for a living…jobs pretty much suck. A lucky few have found ways to make an income and enjoy the source of that income. This, however, is the exception and not the rule. When we’re in our 40’s or 50’s and hate our work, we begin questioning why we’re putting up with it. Can’t we just enjoy our later years?
6. Bouts with depression (or like-symptoms)
According to mental health experts, depression rarely develops in middle-aged years. Sadly, some people experiencing a mid-life crisis experience a loss of identity. This loss – and it is perceived as a “loss” in a very serious way – can change the chemistry of the brain. This cumulative series of unfortunate events can result in depression or similar symptoms.
7. Thinking more about death/”purpose of life”
Innately, we know that death is unavoidable…even if some of us choose to ignore the fact. The simple (uncomfortable?) truth is that as we age, we are closer to death. The term “mid-life” implies we’ve reached what is likely to be the midway point of our lives. Not so unsurprisingly, those experiencing a mid-life crisis are more likely to contemplate death and/or the “purpose of life.”
8. Buying lavish items on impulse
This does happen, and it happens more that you may think. Research shows that at least one-third of 40 to 59 year-old males purchase some kind of lavish item, most commonly – an expensive car. Women also engage in this behavior, many choosing to opt for plastic surgery, Botox or some other cosmetic alteration.
9. Unexpected behavioral changes
One of the more obvious indications of a mid-life crisis is erratic behavior. A person club hopping at 45 can probably expect to raise some eyebrows. Someone that’s 50 stumbling into the office reeking of alcohol can probably expect the same. The truth is that this type of behavior stems from a belief that one doesn’t have much else to lose.
10. Someone says “You’re having a mid-life crisis!”
Ok, so this rarely happens. But sometimes an outsider’s perspective is exactly what someone experiencing a mid-life crisis needs…and it can be very important. People struggling with the crisis are often hurt, lost and searching for answers. They desperately want to know what’s happening. Sometimes, all it takes is someone to make an honest and accurate assessment.
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