8 Ways Sociopaths Try to Manipulate

8 Ways Sociopaths Try to Manipulate


You may feel like you are going crazy if you have ever been the victim of a manipulative sociopath. But the reality is, you are in danger of being manipulated again. In this article, we will talk about some of the ways that a sociopath will try to manipulate you. We will also discuss what you can do about it when you realize what is happening to you.

The many ways that you interact with others, cooperatively, through connections built over time, sharing and trusting each other in different levels of intimacy, are how most normal people act socially. A sociopath sees all the people and things in their life as pieces in a game that they have to win at all costs.

As a result of this game playing, you and anyone who comes into contact with a sociopath is a potential part of their game. You will not likely win in a game against a sociopath because the sociopath has been manipulating people since their early childhood.

Author Martha Stout writes in her book The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless Versus The Rest Of Us,

‘This is exactly what happens to the human mind when emotional attachment and conscience are missing. Life is reduced to a contest, and other human beings seem to be nothing more than game pieces, to be moved about, used as shields, or ejected.’

8 Ways Sociopaths Will Try To Manipulate You


Sociopaths and serial killers share the same lack of remorse for their actions, but neither of these antisocial personalities is created over night. Psychologists say ‘People develop sociopathy as a result of genetic predispositions for neurological differences and antisocial behavior combined with, traumatic childhood experiences. The serial killer is the sociopath that takes the next step and makes a conscious decision to kill. That element of choice is what distinguishes the sociopath from the sociopathic serial killer. ‘

One of the only ways to get out of a sociopath’s game of manipulation may simply be to ask them what they ultimately want and help them to get it. The other option to dealing with a sociopath is to document and report their behavior as well as to avoid becoming a pawn in their game.

1. Flattery

Making you feel good about yourself is a way that a sociopath will try to manipulate you. That’s true especially if you tend to have low self-esteem. The sociopath can sense your need for approval and they will give it to you if it gets them what they want.

2. Sex

A sociopath enjoys sex as one of the only pleasurable parts of living other than dominating the entire game of life. As a result, they tend to have active sexual lives that they involve others in as a manipulation. Do not be fooled; the sociopath is not capable of love so this is just about sexual gratification for them.

3. Staring

The predator stare, the dead eye, the reptilian stare, the shark gaze, the annihilatory stare; this look of emotionless eyes is one that is effectively used by a sociopath to manipulate you. The first one to blink loses, and you just lost to a sociopath who has been practicing this much longer than you have.

4. Silence

The first to speak also loses in the manipulative game of a sociopath, and a lengthy, uncomfortable silence is another tool that they use. By the time you’re feeling the discomfort of this awkwardly long quiet moment, the sociopath has you right where they want you.

5. Pretending

Playing a role or wearing a disguise is what a toxic people do. The most frightening thing about a sociopath is that they look so normal to everyone, but their behavior is only always self-serving.

6. Blaming

A sociopath will call you, hang up on you, and make you feel like it was your fault. A sociopath knows how to use just the right amount of guilt to make you want to make it up to them. Again, this is one of the game playing tactics that a sociopath uses to get what they want.

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7. Shaming

You feel badly for even thinking these negative thoughts about someone who looks like such an upstanding citizen, and the sociopath may even imply that if you tell anyone about their behavior they will only think you are crazy.

8. Intimidation

Scaring you into doing what they want you to do is one way that a toxic person will try to manipulate you. Usually this is not by threats, however, the sociopath is subtle. For example, they may tell you that they used to torture animals as a child and then later use that information as a psychological weapon to manipulate your fear of what they are capable of.

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  1. Sociopaths always target people who are new in a neighborhood and then they stalk you with their phone number (maybe because no one wants to be friend with them). They hate any of your accomplishments and always try to destroy them, but they love to show off every one of their achievements and everything they have or everyone that they know. Modesty is nonexistent in their vocabulary. Also, they freak out that your children might end up better in life than their kids and try to terrorize you and your children for that reason. Yes, they are extremely manipulative and they never leave you alone even if you move from that neighborhood. They do accuse you of all kinds of things that you know very well that are not true and they love to twist your words at their own convenience.For example if you tell them that you didn’t like a baby blue winter jacket, they right away jump to the conclusion that you don’t like baby blue color. They love people to feel sorry for them and love to be the center of everyone’s attention. They instigate everyone against you (even if they have to knock at every door) just to get everyone on their side. They pay other people with all kinds of favors such as better jobs or promotions on the job if their social status permits.The better their social status is the worse they are. They always try to get from you what they want to serve their evil personal interests and try to make you think that they are above any law and that no one can touch them. They think they are too smart for everyone to be caught. Intimidation is one of their weapon they they learn to use very well. Sociopaths always try to get from you what they want and when they cant, they play sour grapes in front of others not to look bad. Not to forget, but I believe that they are some of the biggest backstabbers. And yes, they try to make you think that you are the sick one not them. Reality is, once you bump into a sociopath, you can never escape and they will follow you even into the grave. Sad thing is that the better their social status is, the more people fall for their manipulations and instigation.

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