Whether in romantic or platonic relationships, we all attract certain types of people into our lives based on our attitude, personality, and other factors. However, who we attract and who we’d ideally like to attract often are two different things. For instance, maybe you want outdoorsy types of friends who would rather spend their time in nature than watching TV, but you tend to attract couch potatoes. It happens, even though our happiness partially depends on having relationships with others that will allow us to grow and share common interests with.
So, in this article, we’ll talk about what type of people you tend to attract, and how you can go about attracting people that you really want in your life.
What Type of Person Do You Attract?
We’ll list a few of the most common personalities and character traits for you so that you can see which people you most frequently attract, and who you’d like to attract, ideally.
This type of person loves to spend every second they get in the great outdoors, forgetting about the modern world and just relishing in all the natural wonders of the Earth. They love planning great excursions and reaching new heights, both figuratively and literally. This type of person loves a challenge, and lives for taking risks and breaking barriers. They might be into things such as cliff jumping, skydiving, base jumping, rock climbing, and other types of extreme sports.
Or, in the lesser extreme, they might just enjoy a hike through the woods or a road trip to the Grand Canyon. If you love the outdoors, you will likely attract this type of person.
If you enjoy painting, drawing, writing, reading, and other types of art in your spare time, you will likely attract someone with the same interests. An artist sees the world in a different way, and could care less about numbers and dollars and analytical ideals. They want to create something beautiful, and make their imagination come to life. Artists live inside their own minds a lot, but because of this, they can create from their own thoughts and feelings, and bring something new to life.
These people enjoy having deep conversations and learning new ways of thinking. They have a very wide range of knowledge, in most cases, and can talk to you about everything from quantum physics to philosophy to art history. This person loves to learn, and lives for conversations that expand their mind. They likely have a more logical, analytical personality that enables them to see things objectively. They tend to have strong opinions, and don’t feel shy about voicing them.
You might attract these types of people if you have a mature, objective, analytical personality.
The empath feels deeply, and loves to offer advice and a shoulder to cry on to those in need. This type of friend or partner will never leave your side, and will stay up through the night listening to you, or just holding you if you need it. They are the most loyal, honest, giving, beautiful people you will ever meet, and you might attract this type of person if you are receptive to emotions.
Empaths need to feel safe, loved, and understood, so you likely attract this type of person if you are a deep, compassionate person.
The Tech Lover
These people will spend hours playing video games, watching movies, or playing boardgames. They tend to also love intellectual topics, and can spend hours talking to you about subjects that truly interest them. Far from what was once known as nerds, this personality is often celebrated, because they keep their child-like demeanor and show others how to have fun, play, and learn all at the same time.
You might attract this type of person if you consider yourself a movie buff, a gamer, or something of the sort.
You might attract a passionate, driven, motivated person if you have big goals you’d like to accomplish. The go-getter will keep you motivated, and encourage you to follow through with your plans even if they seem scary. This type of person loves to push the boundaries and see how much they’re truly capable of. They hardly ever slow down, as they want to utilize their time to the best of their ability.
The go-getter might have several successful businesses, best-selling books, or maybe a popular YouTube channel. They know how to get what they want, and don’t hesitate to go after it.
You prefer spending time with quieter, more reserved people. You might attract this type of person for two reasons: (1) you’re an introvert yourself or; (2) you’re an extrovert who needs someone to balance you out.
Introverts and extroverts can certainly get along, but if you attract the former, then you likely need someone in your life to help you slow down and enjoy the little things in life.
On the contrary, if you attract an extrovert, then you might need some excitement in your life, whether you identify as an introvert or extrovert. If you attract this type of person, get ready for some fun and adventures, as this outgoing friend or partner will help you have the time of your life.
Attracting an extrovert might mean that you have an outgoing personality as well that your friend or partner finds attractive, or maybe the person needs an opposite personality to balance them out.
The Debbie Downer
Unfortunately, we’ve all known this type of person at some point in our lives. They can come from all walks of life, but they don’t offer much in a relationship except bringing you down. They like to complain about anything and everything, and will spread their negativity to anyone who will listen.
If you attract this type of person, you might want to take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself what types of behaviors you might engage in that attract negative people. Do you complain a lot? Do you not stand up for yourself? Do you allow people to take advantage of you? Oftentimes, positive people will actually attract negative people because the Debbie downer feeds off their energy. If you have a relationship like this in your life, you need to confront the person immediately so that they don’t continue this destructive behavior any longer, at least on your watch.
How To Attract The People You Want
1. Know who you are.
Believe it or not, knowing yourself well can help you form deeper, more positive relationships. If you don’t know yourself, you’ll likely attract people who don’t know themselves, either. Just the same, if you don’t love yourself, you’ll only attract more people who don’t love themselves.
To prove our point about the importance of knowing yourself, researchers in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology studied the Law of Attraction and discovered that it even applied to 4th graders. Students in grades 4-12 filled out surveys about their attitudes and preferences. Then, the students looked over surveys from other students, without knowing whose survey they had in their hand. Both boys and girls ranked the surveys most similar to theirs as being the most attractive people.
2. Have an open heart and mind.
In order to attract the right people, you have to remain open-minded. You can’t possibly attract who you want if you don’t believe that you have the ability to do so. Keep your emotions positive, and you can even try repeating affirmations such as “I will attract people into my life who are positive, healthy, and happy.”
Also, focus on healing yourself from the inside out. This way, you’ll attract more whole, healthy people who you can truly enjoy a thriving, positive relationship with.
3. Don’t try to control it.
No matter how much you say that you want a specific person in your life, you can’t control who shows up. It might be an elderly man, or it could be a teenager. The Law of Attraction sends you a person who will most benefit your evolution on this Earth, so don’t question the methods. Just enjoy the presence of whoever happens to show up, and know that you either consciously or unconsciously attracted them into your life.