Have you ever given yourself a pep talk in the mirror, maybe before a big job interview or a first date? Well, then you are already on the right track. Some people feel silly talking to themselves, and would rather work through their problems in a more stoic manner. But studies have shown that talking to yourself can be psychologically useful in managing a stressful or distressing situation. It can also help with problem solving, motivation and confidence.
Talking to yourself can help manage your emotions, de-stress and situation and calm you down when you feel like anxiety becomes overwhelming. And while talking to yourself isn’t for everyone, if you find that other ways don’t seem to work, you should give a little self-talk a try. Here are some reasons to start talking to yourself – even if you do feel a little crazy at first.
3 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD START TALKING TO YOURSELF
“We may not be able to change the reality but we can change how our minds see and store it.” – Maddy Malhotra
Talking to yourself using second and third-person language is a great way to motivate yourself into being prepared for a task that is particularly stressful. Instead of just trying to will motivation out of nowhere, a better choice would be to give yourself a pep talk. By saying, “You can do this, you’re fully prepared,” you give yourself the strength and motivation to jump right into the task at hand.
Often, when we are struggling to find the right kind of motivation, we can be left frustrated and more stressed out than before. In fact, we can be our own worst enemies. By talking to yourself, you are giving yourself the exact ally that you need to feel confident and motivated. A stressful situation can seem less daunting once you have given yourself a good pep talk. After all, no one knows what you are capable of better than yourself.
2. MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS
By talking to yourself, you have a greater impact on how you are able to manage how you are feeling. Stress can be overwhelming, and can cause you to feel panicked and distressed. By talking to yourself, you are able to more easily work through your emotions and see things from an outside perspective when you couldn’t before.
Self-talk can easily take a situation that seems threatening and turn it into one that is more of a challenge, such as a nerve-wracking job interview or your first time giving a presentation to your boss. When you can manage your emotions through self-talk, you will feel calmer and more prepared for the task at hand. This can work for any kind of emotion, whether it be frustration or anxiety or even sadness. Talking yourself through how you feel means you will be less likely to be overwhelmed by those emotions.
3. PSYCHOLOGICAL DISTANCING
Removing yourself from the stressful situation can help calm your down more quickly than anything else. But what if you can’t physically walk away? That’s where self-talk comes in. By using second and third person language while talking to yourself, you are able to psychologically distance yourself from the situation by referring to yourself as someone else.