What is your preferred sleeping position? Do you and your partner like to snuggle tight, or do you desire to have your own blanket and space in the bed? Did you know that how you sleep says a lot about your relationship?
Psychologists have studied the various sleep patterns and their importance in a relationship, and it’s quite a shocking revelation. A leading article references a study from the University of Hertfordshire in England. Shockingly, 68 percent of the people who participated in the research preferred not to touch at all during their slumber.
Of those people who didn’t touch, 94 percent said that their relationship was healthy. Could your resting position be a stance, or is there more to it? The article also referenced another study by the University of Chicago. It found that when a man doesn’t get the sleep he needs, his testosterone levels can drop too low.
While the studies referenced in this article point out that your sleep position doesn’t matter, other references beg to differ. According to Patti Wood, the author of Success Signals a Guide to Reading Body Language, your body language tells a great deal about your relationship. For instance, those who sleep back-to-back are still connected, yet they are independent people.
Ten Things Your Sleeping Position Says About Your Relationship
If you think your relationship is secure, what does your sleeping position determine? Here are the most common positions observed and what they mean for your partnership. Could there be trouble brewing under the covers?
Spooning is the most popular sleeping pose, and there is both the big and little spoon. The big spoon is the person that feels like the protector, and in many instances, it’s the man, but that’s not always the case. The little spoon is the one that needs protection.
This bedtime position shows that the little spoon might be vulnerable in the relationship, and they need to be safeguarded in life. The big spoon probably feels superior and acts as a protector to the small spoon. This intimate stance provides the couple with the skin-on-skin contact they both crave, as well as the extra TLC and nurturing that the little spoon needs.
2. Back-to-Back = Closeness and Independence
If you fall asleep facing the opposite direction, yet your backs manage to touch. It’s called the back-to-back position. Your connection is usually at the spine, and your behind may or may not meet. If your bottoms do make contact, then it’s called a moon landing, which is an ironic term.
Touching your backsides means that you both have a strong desire to stay connected romantically, but you’re still an independent person. You don’t need your spouse to define you as strong enough to live with or without them. Couples who prefer this sleeping position have found that they are amazingly comfortable with one another, and they can relax and just be themselves.
This couple loves each other but values being two separate people. If you and your spouse have recently had an argument and go to this position, it means that there’s still a connection no matter how hard things are right now.
3. Sweetheart Cradle = Trust and Teamwork
The sweetheart cradle is a very endearing position. When one partner is resting their head on the other person’s chest, they hold each other close. It’s also common for the couple to intertwine their legs as they nurture each other.
What stands out most about this position is that the couple is a team, and a superior level of trust exists between them. While snuggling in this position, they both feel the romance as well as protection. Oddly enough, it’s found that new couples prefer to sleep this way, as well as those who have broken up and got back together.
4. Leg Hug = Strong Sexual Connection
Some people are more sexual beings than others, and the leg hug is one way to decipher. When legs and feet are touching, it shows that one person is wanting or needs more of a sexual or an emotional connection with their partner. When legs are tangled, it shows that the two of you are interwoven together as one unit.
5. Both on Stomach = Fear and Anxiety in The Relationship
Not all sleeping positions are positive. If a couple sleeps apart on their stomachs, then it’s a sign that there are anxieties and fear in their relationship. When there is no touching, it can be an indication of a lack of trust.
If you find that the two of you seem to go to this position, then it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Your body language speaks louder than your words, so you need to talk about what’s going on.
6. No Contact, Back-to-Back = Strong Independence
So, most people will assume that no touching in bed is terrible, but it doesn’t have to be. If a couple can share the same space yet sleep apart, it’s a sign that they both have a strong independent nature. The connected yet self-sufficient lover usually connects back-to-back with no touching involved.
Some call this classic space liberty lovers as they are both so secure within themselves that they don’t need any extra security from one another. The real problem occurs if one person is sleeping on the edge of the bed, trying desperately to be separate. It’s a sign that they are disconnecting or that the mattress is too small.
7. Pet Barrier = Using Animals to Avoid Issues
Most pet lovers share their intimate space with their furry friends. While it’s not a bad thing, it can cause some issues with your spouse if you let them sleep in between you. Your pet will undoubtedly feel the love and devotion you have towards them, but your partner may feel lax.
It’s commonly a sign that you and your spouse are avoiding an issue in your relationship, and you’re using your pet as a buffer for the problem. It’s sort of like the elephant in the room that no one is talking about.
If you must have your pets in your bed, make them sleep around you and not in between you. There are newfangled beds made with separate additions for Fido. Plus, if it means your relationship’s health, you should consider letting them sleep with the children or in a cage at night.
Plus, a pet bed beside your bed isn’t a bad idea either. Not every couple who has pets in their bed uses them to bridge the divide, but it does happen more often than you would think.
8. Front to Front = A Like Minded Couple
The front-to-front sleeping position is a variation of being thoroughly intertwined, but this time you are facing one another. It’s also interesting to note that most couples keep their heads at the same level. There may or may not be any touching as some do like to drape their arms across one another.