7 Skills Every Independent Person Needs to Know

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“Most people are unaware that they are conducting their lives more from a child’s frame of reference than in an adult mode.” ~ Robert Firestone, Ph.D.

Let’s be honest, we all have childish moments –some of which are fine and good (even fun!) Here’s the problem that Dr. Firestone is getting at: some people never grow up. As a result, they don’t take responsibility to their actions, seek to blame others, and – more often than not – lead a life of codependency.

But it is never too late to learn. The truth is that we can all gain something out of improving skills which allow us to live an independent and enjoyable life.

Without further ado, here are seven skills that every independent person should know:

1. How to Exercise Critical Thinking

Per The Foundation for Critical Thinking, “Critical thinking is the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing, applying, analyzing, synthesizing, and/or evaluation information.” There are numerous benefits to be gained from mastering critical thinking skills, including but not limited to, self-management, self-discipline, and motivation.

In short, critical thinking involves rigorous questioning of assumptions and ideas rather than simply accepting them at face value. Heaven knows that we need more good critical thinkers now more than ever.

2. How to Manage Your Time

The words “time management” are enough to stoke fear in some – but they shouldn’t. Time management, contrary to popular belief, allows one to live more independently (rather than be a slave to the clock.) While sticking to a schedule involves a bit of discipline, the rewards are well worth the effort.

Effective time management requires knowing your goals and priorities, planning ahead, saying no, eliminating distractions, delegating responsibilities, watching what you spend, and practicing self-care.

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3. How to Remember People’s Names

It goes without saying that building and maintaining relationships is a crucial life skill. A strong social network can sometimes make the difference between success and failure, and happiness and despair.

A social blunder committed by many (including this writer) is the seeming lack of ability to remember people’s names. However, you can quickly improve this skill.

The two most important things when it comes to remembering a person’s name is concentration and repetition. Paying attention when a person speaks their name and then repeating it to yourself afterwards makes a huge difference.

4. How to Negotiate

Skillful negotiation brings about many desirable results in a person’s life, but saving and making money is probably where it (literally) pays off. Want a lower interest rate? Need a raise? Does the price need to come down? Having good negotiation skills in your personal arsenal may just make these things happen.

Remember these four things (especially the last):

– You can negotiate most things – but not everything.
– Negotiation is NOT a win/lose scenario.
– Remember to research in order to gain leverage (e.g., product prices.)
– Don’t be hostile! Negotiation can be turned into a polite, civilized conversation.

5. How to Perform CPR

Here’s hoping that you’ll never have to save the life of another human being. That said, about 70 percent of people feel helpless in a situation involving a heart attack while over 80 percent of cardiac arrests occur in the home.

CPR, which stands for cardiopulmonary resuscitation, can be learned online or (preferably) in-person. Regardless of instructional medium, learning this valuable and potentially life-saving skill is well worth it.

6. How to Swim

If you don’t know how to swim, that’s okay. But you may want to consider learning for a couple of reasons. The main reason is, of course, for your own safety. When you ride on a boat, raft, or some other vessel, knowing how to swim can not only save your life but may just save the life of someone else. Second, swimming is fun, invigorating, and an excellent form of exercise!

Most community pools hold swim lessons for a nominal fee. Another option is if you have an accomplished swimmer in your family, they can probably teach you the basics.

7. How to Recognize a Liar

Not to sound overly-pessimistic, but there are liars everywhere. If you’ve ever been stung by a liar, you’re intimately familiar with the pain and embarrassment that surfaces afterward. If you haven’t, count your lucky stars.

You don’t need to be a CIA operative to learn how to detect a lie. Here are some basics:

1. Ask some neutral questions: Don’t delve into details right away. Ask them about their plans for the weekend or the weather – and then watch their body language.

2. Shift from neutral to “hot spot” questioning: Everyone gives subconscious cues when lying. For the untrained, there’s generally a noticeable shift in facial expressions, eye movement, and sentence structure.

3. Listen to their words: When trying to catch someone in a lie, it’s tempting to pay excessive attention to body language. Make sure that you direct some of that focus on their words. Per Psychology Today “They may start speaking more quickly or slowly, and with either a higher or lower tone,” additionally, “…the sentences they use become more complex as their brain works on overdrive to keep up with their tale.”

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Sources
http://www.criticalthinking.org/pages/defining-critical-thinking/766
https://bornrealist.com/work-skills/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-relationships/201507/6-ways-detect-liar-in-just-seconds

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