Are you reading these signs of attraction correctly? When you’re interested in someone romantically, you’ve probably been watching them closely for signs that they are attracted to you.
Flirting can be fun, but usually you are hoping that your efforts will be noticed by the object of your attraction and that they will return the interest. If you’ve been putting your best foot forward and making obvious moves but your potential romantic partner is less obvious, you may be wondering if they are interested in you.
Reading the signs of attraction can be complicated. In a study of nonverbal attraction cues in opposite sex couples, researchers found that signals can have multiple meanings, and this is on purpose. For example, when it comes to signs of attraction from a woman, laughter can send a playful message or its meaning can be modified by other body language. Researchers say that laughter from a woman, together with its accompanying body postures and movements, can mean anything from sexual solicitation to aversion, depending on which and how many different signals are used.
In the same study, men seem to communicate interest for women during laughter with only a few body language signals, such as body orientation and dominance postures. There are not so many subconscious signs of male attraction — men tend to be more straightforward in their flirtation. Unless they are shy, if they are attracted to you, they will make sure that you know.
Here are 6 signs that will tell you whether that man or woman that you’ve had your eye on is also attracted to you.
SIGNS OF ATTRACTION: 12 TELLING SIGNS SOMEONE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU
SIGNS THAT A WOMAN IS ATTRACTED TO YOU
As mentioned, when it comes to women, generally speaking the signs of attraction may be a little more subtle. Rather than direct, obvious body movements, they may show telltale signs in smaller ways. Here are a few of the most common signs of attraction from a woman.
1. SUSTAINED EYE CONTACT
Have you exchanged some long, smoldering glances? That is definitely a good sign that she’s attracted to you. Maybe you turned your head toward her and caught her watching you, only to see her quickly turn away in embarrassment? Another very positive sign of attraction.
Maybe you had a conversation over the file cabinet and neither of you looked at the file drawers? Another good sign. Direct, sustained eye contact of more than 10 seconds is a sign that she is attracted to you. Her eyes may break away from your gaze briefly to check out your body as you talk, which is also a good sign.
When a woman is interested in you, she will find a way to touch you often. It could be a sign of attraction if she briefly touches your shoulders or your knee as you sit near each other. If you find that her touch lingers longer than might perhaps be normal, or that she finds excuses to touch you when most people wouldn’t, she may be sending you some nonverbal cues that she is attracted to you.
Giggling, especially in combination with eye contact and touching, are especially good signs that a woman is attracted to you. Laughter is a great way to break the ice and get you in a happy, positive, and receptive mood as she feels out your level of interest in her. If a woman doesn’t find something funny she’s not likely to laugh, so if you say something that you don’t think was necessarily very funny and get a big response, then that may be a hint that she is interested or flirting with you.
4. HIGHER VOCAL TONE
Women tend to use a higher vocal pitch when they are interested in a potential romantic partner. Their voices get higher in acoustical tone, not in volume, when they find an attractive mate. By changing the pitch of her voice, a woman is signaling her feminine traits to the object of her affection. Particularly if you notice that her voice is higher than her normal pitch, this could be a telltale sign for some people.
5. TOUCHING HER FACE
She might push her hair back behind her ear, showing some skin on her neck to you. This is a gesture of trust and also one that may indicate interest in you. She might cover her mouth when she laughs or put her hand up to her mouth when she is quiet. These hand gestures may just be out of nerves, but they could also potentially be good signs that she is attracted to you.
6. TURNING TOWARD YOU WITH HER LEGS
Facing you is a good sign, but that could just be a courteous way of giving you attention when you are talking. If her legs and feet are all turned toward you, especially in combination with some of the above signals, it is a good sign that she is attracted to you. This signal is one to look for if you are in a group setting. If there are a number of people, but she is facing towards you, or only talking to you, this can be a telling sign of attraction.
SIGNS THAT A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO YOU:
Again, the signs of male attraction tend to be more apparent, as most societies encourage men to speak their minds and make the first move. But in case you are dealing with a shy guy or maybe just one who wants to be respectful, here are some of the more subconscious signs of male attraction.
When he straightens his tie, smooths his hair, or buttons his coat when you appear, it’s a good sign that he is attracted to you. Before you came into view, he was checking for food in his teeth, locating a breath mint and applying a splash of cologne. Especially if it is a guy who is not typically known for putting extra care into his appearance, this can be a telling sign of attraction.
2. ATTRACTING ATTENTION
The term ‘peacocking’ has been used to describe the ways that men make a display of their attraction to someone. This is a showy behavior that is designed to attract your attention. They are literally saying “look at me” with their behavior.
The behavior could be anything from wearing showy clothing, like a brightly colored tie, to challenging other men to physical contests, like arm wrestling. Just like a male bird tries to make a show for the female, you can tell that he is attracted to you if he makes these showy gestures with you around.
3. STANDING STRAIGHTER
He was slouching until you showed up, then he sat up straight or stood a little taller when you came around. He probably pushed his chest out a bit and sucked in his gut too. These body posture adjustments to look more attractive to you are definitely a good sign.
He can’t sit still when you’re around. If he touches his watch repeatedly or buttons and unbuttons his jacket, or brushes his hair away from his face over and over again, it’s a good sign that he’s attracted to you.
You notice his arms bend, he balls his hands into fists, and he appears to be tightening his chest and arm muscles for you. He’s putting on a display of his best masculine traits to attract your approval.
6. OPEN FACIAL EXPRESSIONS
Raised eyebrows, open lips, wide eyes, and smiling are all open facial expressions. Combine these with sustained eye contact and his eyes checking out your body and it’s a sure sign that he is attracted to you.