Being crazy in love is one of the most magical experiences in our lives. Questions rise when you meet someone new: To stay or not to stay? Is s/he the one or not? Are we compatible? Can this be my soulmate? You don’t always know if you are “meant for each other.” So how do you answer those questions? Sometimes the answer is just as simple as stepping back and opening your heart to what’s in front of you.
Here are 5 signs that you are destined to be together:
1. You can be vulnerable.
When you allow yourself to open up, you are living authentically. You get to be raw and real. There is beauty in accepting your flaws and those of your partner. Owning each other’s full stories is freeing. It’s in that vulnerability that true love flourishes. If you can share and bear your soul without feeling scrutinized or criticized, this person is a keeper.
“What happens when people open their hearts? They get better.” ~ Haruki Murakami
2. You respect each other.
Mutual appreciation requires a mature level of trust and respect. Respect requires honesty. The truest form of love is how you behave with another in a relationship. In that state of respect, you get to share things that you wouldn’t tell anyone. Respect is earned. When you are in a relationship that provides safety and security, you have found someone special.
“The moment you put someone on a pedestal they will look down upon you. The trick is respecting each other equally.” ~ Teresa Mummert
3. You are not jealous.
You crave time with each other, but also require ample space. There is no jealousy in the relationship because you still remain individuals. There is no strain about past insecurities because you feel at ease with (and without) each other all the time. You spend time apart with friends, and each time you reconnect, it is rewarding. There is no co-dependency or possessiveness. You crave to be with each other, but you recognize it is important to have freedom of expression and separate interests.
“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
4. You laugh together.
Being silly comes naturally. You can poke fun at each other. Laughter is ever-present in your relationship. Many times, these type of relationships start as friendships. You value each other enough to be yourself. It’s a healthy place. If you can laugh at yourself with your partner without holding back the sarcasm, you have something that is beyond special. These types of relationships are destined to endure.
“No one can be your sun, moon, or stars until you have your own world.” ~ K. M. Docherty
5. You raise each other up.
The two of you help each other reach the best possible versions of yourselves. You become explorers and adventurers in finding ways to bring joy to one another. You accept everything about each other without feeling judged or judging. It’s in these types of relationships that the best is enhanced. If your relationship is based on admiration and inspiration for each other, you have found a gem.
There is no manual for relationships, but these signs will help get you started. Ultimately, your heart will let you know when you find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Sometimes, it might take a few Mr. or Mrs. Right-Now’s to teach you what you want in a partner. As Psychologist Carl Jung said,“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”