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7 Negative Excuses to Stop Using Right Now

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“Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.” ~ Psychology Today

Everyone is guilty to some degree of self-deception – some more so than others.

Why?

Because we’re human!!

Fortunately for us, it possible to defeat any behavior sabotaging our progress. But the first step to solving any problem is admitting there is one.

And one big problem we have is lying to ourselves.

Lying about our behaviors, thoughts, and actions – and accomplishing absolutely nothing in the process.

Can you imagine a life without self-deception? How much more at peace we’d be with ourselves and the world? Not only could we accomplish so much more – we could love ourselves so much more. In turn, we could love one another so much more.

We can, and should, imagine such a life. Even better news: we can have such a life.

It all comes down to our willingness to disengage from self-deception! To get us started on the beautiful path towards liberation, let’s point out some of the more popular fibs we tell ourselves.

Here are seven negative phrases to stop telling ourselves right now! (We can do it!)

1. “I don’t have enough time.” 

In a piece titled “Self-Sabotage: The Enemy Within,” the authors write:

“When it comes to self-sabotage, procrastination is king. Why? Because procrastination is the gap between intention and action, and it is in this gap that the self operates. The undermining behavior lies in not closing the gap.”

Fix: We procrastinate for one reason, and one reason only: we think too far ahead. “Research indicates that establishing a low threshold to task engagement fuels motivation,” writes the authors.

Their advice? Just get started on the task. You’ll quickly realize things aren’t bad at all.

2. “I can’t live without (x).” 

Fill in the ‘x.’

Unless the ‘x’ is love, oxygen, water, or food, the statement is not true. We can live without things. In fact, there’s a term for this type of self-denial; it’s called resilience.

Our brain is a wonderful, magical, and uber-intelligent organ. It’s also a drama queen. The brain will overreact to anything unless we train it otherwise.

We will engage in self-deception without realizing it. We’ll come up with excuses without knowing it. We’ll “need” something without needing it.

Fix: Read about minimalism. Believe us; you can live with far fewer people and things than you think.

3. “It’s too hard!”

Speaking of the brain. Another one of its favorite tricks is trying to get you to believe you’re incapable.

Let’s use the infamous New Year’s Resolution as an example. The ball drops in Times Square, and you’re committed to some goal. You happily celebrate with your friends and maybe down a glass of champagne or six.

A few days, weeks, or months roll by, and we give up. “It’s too hard.”

Fix: Most of us don’t quit something on a whim. In many cases, we punish ourselves over the mistakes we’ve committed along the way until we can no longer accept the situation.

It’s important to realize that mistakes happen (we’re human, remember?!). Your errors in judgment are nothing more than detours. You’ll eventually reach your goal … if you don’t give up!

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4. “I’ll look like an idiot.”

One of the biggest fears many of us have is the fear of rejection. How is someone rejected? By what they think, do, and say.

Look at some of the most revered people throughout history. Most of these individuals were heavily criticized and mocked for nothing more than being themselves.

Fix: Realize one simple thing.

Unless you’re a celebrity, most people are too wrapped up in their inner worlds to pay you much attention. The truth is that our mind tricks us into thinking we’re being critiqued when, in fact, nobody cares!

5. “I’m not strong enough.” 

What is inner strength? Inner strength, writes Remez Sasson, is “willpower, self-discipline, persistence, the ability to concentrate, and piece of mind.”

In spite of popular belief, nobody is born with inner strength. Nor is inner strength bravado or “toughing it out.” Quite the contrary. Real inner strength is simply letting go – of anger, anxieties, and stress.

Fix: Buddha once said: “The mind is everything; what we think, we become.” If we think peace, harmony, acceptance, and gentle self-discipline, we will embody those things. Consider studying some form of meditation.

6. “I’ll do it. Just not today.” 

If you’ve ever worked in sales, you heard some variation of this statement multiple times. 99 percent of customers who utter these words are never seen or heard from again – or they buy from someone/somewhere else.

Jim Rohn once said “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

“Not today” is self-defeating. “Not today” is, more often than not, an excuse.”

Fix: Evaluate the reasons why you’re putting something off. Are they legitimate reasons (illness, burn-out, overwhelm, etc.), or impulses masquerading as rational thoughts?

Be honest with yourself. If you know it’s the latter, gently refocus your attention and start small. You’ll be done in no time!

7. “The world is against me.” 

To be fair, we’ve all thought this at one time or another. Life can be hard, after all.

Sometimes there is a person against you; someone who wants to steal your happiness. Make you miserable.

The question we need to ask is: “Will I allow it?”

Fix: Although our circumstances may not, at times, allow us to appreciate or realize this, it nonetheless remains a fact…

Happiness comes from within.

When we make a conscious choice to regularly take in and appreciate life’s abundance – family, friends, health, love, nature, etc. – we will change our mindset. We may experience growing pains along the way, but if we remain mindful of this fact, it will become part of us.

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Sources:
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16836/8-self-sabotaging-lies-to-stop-telling-yourself.html

http://observer.com/2015/07/the-secret-to-happiness-is-ten-specific-behaviors/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201109/procrastination-oops-where-did-the-day-go
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-sabotage
https://www.successconsciousness.com/inner-strength.htm

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