Since the dawn of humanity, love has been the one thing people constantly yearn for. Sure, today’s society is much different from how the world used to be, even a couple of decades ago. Nowadays, one of the most important factors for a positive life for many people is building a stable career. If you look back a few decades ago, virtually no one skipped out on getting married to have a career.
That wasn’t necessarily a good example of love, as most people would get married because they had to. Arranged marriages used to be a big part of how society worked. But this is not the case anymore. Today’s standard of living is the best it’s ever been.
And people can be more connected than ever before, even if it’s with people who live on the other side of the world. So, it should be a given that most people age happily in love, right? The truth is that more people struggle with loneliness than ever before. Sure, maybe in the past, people had to deal with arranged marriages, which is no way to live your life. But at least they were surrounded by people and had someone by their side when things got hard.
Nowadays, most people don’t even have that. And the connections people manage to have online are usually superficial. People focus on building their careers and being independent, but most struggle with forming genuine connections. Some might even say that the world is fighting an epidemic of loneliness. So, what can you do to stay positive enough to find love if it’s so hard to meet new people and even hold on to old relationships?
4 Ways to Attract Love In Life (and Become Happier and More Positive)
1. Learn to Accept and Value Your Traits
Many people struggle in their romantic life because they base their worth on how their partner sees them. Instead of being with someone they genuinely care about, they make the mistake of being with someone because they feel valued in a relationship. That being said, you should be valued by your partner. So don’t think it’s wrong to look for someone who sees you and finds you the most amazing person in the world.
But you shouldn’t be with someone just because you need a boost of confidence. If you’re the type who jumps into a relationship to feel worthy, you won’t get the love you’re looking for. And if you don’t have a good opinion of yourself, it’ll even be hard to give your partner the love they deserve. You might care about them, but that will likely become a dependency or obsession.
If you struggle with accepting yourself, you shouldn’t enter relationships. You should work on yourself and take a break from dating. Focus on self-care and strengthening the platonic relationships you have in your life. Start being active and eating healthier. Living a healthier life will quickly help you be happier and accept yourself.
Even though loneliness is not desirable, independence is. When you aren’t in a relationship, you can focus solely on finding who you are and what you want to do in your life. You’ll start to value yourself, and you won’t need that approval from a partner to feel appropriate. When you finally start feeling at peace with yourself, you can go back out there and look for romance. And love will follow shortly after.
2. Be More Positive
Positivity is key to living a good life. But it’s also a helpful tool for finding love. This is because positivity gives you the courage to experience new things and meet new people. A pessimist will not give a relationship a chance because they will be convinced all relationships will eventually end. Or they believe that love only brings sorrow and pain. Not to mention that pessimistic people will not give someone a chance unless that person has seemingly no flaws.
They have stringent requirements to meet before accepting to date that person. This is because they try to shelter their hearts by minimizing the risk of incompatibility. Love doesn’t follow any rules or formulas. Sure, it’s good to know what you want from a relationship. But there is always a risk of things going south. And that’s the risk you have to take if you want to find love.
Not only will positivity allow you to have new experiences, but positive people will always attract others. They have an aura that is welcoming and intriguing, so people will want to talk to you if you exude positivity. On the other hand, negative people tend to be more closed off, making it a bit hard for others to get to know them. But how can you be more positive when life is already so full of hurdles, and it gives you all the reasons not to be?
Well, you need to start living in the present and practicing gratitude. It can even help to have a journal in which to write all things you are grateful for in a day, even if they are just small things. Maybe you got a great coffee today. Even that’s something to be thankful for. If you keep such a journal and try to find a few things to be grateful for daily, it’ll be easier for you to be positive. And, as a bonus, you will attract love.
3. Use the Law of Attraction
The law of attraction is based on manifestation. You’ve probably heard this term but in entirely different circumstances. No, this isn’t the same law of attraction you learned in school. It’s something else based on spirituality. There isn’t much research on this topic, so its accuracy and benefits haven’t yet been determined. Some people even believe that manifestation is just some bogus practice invented by people who don’t want to face reality.
But that’s not the case. Manifesting isn’t as simple as visualizing something and waiting for it to be delivered to your doorstep. If you visualize that you’ll get a perfect score on a test but don’t study for that test, you won’t ace it. But if you take the realistic approach, manifestation and the law of attraction can help you find love. Manifestation is just a visualization exercise.
If you use it to find love, you will need to visualize your desired partner. Imagine how they would look, act, and even how they would smell. It allows you to create the perfect partner in your head, and you can use that image when searching for the best match in the real world. Some people even suggest that meditation is a great way to open up your senses to manifest the partner you truly want.
Again, this won’t mean that a supermodel will fall from the sky and onto your doorstep. But it means that you will know what you want. And this exercise also gives you the confidence to go out and get the person you truly want. You might be too scared to start a conversation with someone cute from the bar without manifesting.
But, when you’ve been manifesting a person for a while and see someone who fits that description, you’ll have more confidence to walk up to them. And that might be the beginning of a great love story.
4. Put Yourself Out There
If you are looking for a new relationship, you must meet new people and go on a few dates. Chances are, you won’t already have someone who fits you best. Maybe you are one of the lucky ones who met your soulmate when you were five. And now you are both adults, and you can be together in a serious relationship. But most people don’t have this kind of luxury.
So, for those who don’t have the luxury of having their soulmate already in their life, you need to start dating. If you don’t try to meet new people, you will never find the one who is truly perfect for you. And that means that your love life will be on standby for an indefinite period. If you feel ready for a new romantic adventure, you can’t just wait around and hope to bump into the perfect partner.
Life is not a romantic comedy; not many people will meet their soulmates in the grocery store. Even though the dating scene can be awful, you might need to dabble. Even though you will meet a ton of duds, at least you can meet people who also want to date. So at least you have this in common. But, if you genuinely dislike dating, you should at least try to go out more and meet new people.
Maybe pick up a new hobby that requires you to take some classes. That’s a great environment to meet people with similar interests to you. Or go out to pubs or clubs more. That way, you can have fun while meeting new people who can be potential love interests.
Final Thoughts on Some Ways to Attract Love In Life
Love is something that everyone wants to have. But it’s not enough to wait and hope to stumble upon it. You need to search for it and learn how to attract it. That’s the only way you’ll have the loving relationship you want and deserve. Waiting around will make you feel that much lonelier and won’t help you attract true love.
Before going out into the world and looking for the one, you must learn to accept and love yourself. A confident and positive person will attract partners who will genuinely love them. It also helps to manifest and visualize the kind of relationship you want so that you know what you are looking for. And, when all that’s said and done, you can be positive about yourself, get out there, and start looking for the one you’re meant to be with.