“True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together.” – Ricardo Montalban
Throughout life, we go through many different romantic relationships in an effort to find the person that is going to be with us forever. While some people are lucky enough to marry their high school sweethearts and still be in love 40 years later, some of us have to search a little harder. And that’s okay!
True love, what is it exactly?
“There are many kinds of love. Passionate, romantic love is very important, but long-term couples also engage in deliberate acts of love that nurture their partner and their overall couple relationship,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Mudita Rastogi, Ph.D.
Clinical psychologist Yana Dubinsky, Psy.D, however, states that true love goes beyond feelings! According to her true love is “an act of will and judgment, intention and promise.”
Finding someone that you know is going to love you forever is worth the time and effort it takes. When you find that special person, you may not know it right away. That’s why there are signs that you should look out for to let you know that you’ve found someone who is going to love you for life.
Here Are 4 Signs You’ve Found Love For Life
1. You have good communication
Communication is always important, in any kind of relationship! Whether it’s romantic or platonic, being able to effectively communicate will make any relationship strong. One of the biggest signs that you’ve found someone who will love you for life is to see how well you communicate together.
Marriage coach Eric Hunt says, “Many individuals find themselves in relationships where they have ‘fun together,’ but are unable to openly communicate their feelings, desires and wishes… Often this leads to further issues in the relationship and is usually the root cause of most major disputes…”
Therefore, are you able to talk about things that are difficult while still maintaining an open flow of communication? Are you able to settle disputes or arguments without it blowing up in your face? Do you tell each other how you’re feeling? These are all signs of good and honest communication, which are some of the most important things in a relationship for life.
2. You have amazing compatibility
Not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually, too. Physical compatibility is important when thinking about someone who will love you for life. You need to be able to be intimate with one another and have it be fulfilling for both parties. But not only that, being emotionally and spiritually compatible will bring so much warmth and happiness into your lives.
What does being emotionally and spiritually entail? Well, it’s much like being on someone’s same wavelength. You understand each other’s emotions and can tell when they’re feeling happy or sad just by being near them. When you have someone who can practically predict your mood, then you’ll know that you’ve found a love for life.
3. You are looking towards the future
A sure sign that you’ve found a love for life is suddenly finding yourself excited and eager for what the future holds. When you think of your life, you’re now thinking a few years down the line and that person is always going to be in it with you. Before, maybe you never thought beyond the next few months.
Now, you might find yourself thinking about what kind of house you’ll want to buy and the kind of schools you want to put your children into, if you’re considering having children at all. Whatever you imagine your future to hold, you’re no longer afraid to look into it. In fact, you’re more excited than ever to see what the future will bring, as long as you have your partner by your side.
4. The rest of your relationships are improving
The thing about finding a love for life is that this relationship will actually help improve the rest of your relationships as well. When you find a love that is so empowering and energizing, you may find that your friendships and your relationships with your family also benefit from all of that love you’re feeling.
Taoist Master Shunya Barton says, “Whatever we align our vibration and frequency with, that is the vibration and frequency we become. When we speak beautiful and positive words, we become beautiful and positive.”
Therefore, when you have a great source of compassion, kindness and positivity in your life, then you’ll be better able to extend that same positivity onto the other relationships in your life. The same way that bad relationships tend to suck the life out of the other relationships in your life, good and fulfilling relationships do the exact opposite. Take a look around at the other relationships you have with people in your life, and you’ll find that they’ve grown stronger and more positive.
Throughout our lives, we can go through many different relationships – some good, some bad, some neither. We may look back on our relationships fondly, while still knowing that they weren’t the person who was going to love us forever. These are some tried and true signs that you’ve met the person who is going to love you for life.