Forgiveness can be one of the most rewarding experiences you can give to yourself. Yes, that’s right – yourself!

I call it For”GIFT”ness.

Here’s why . . .

Forgiveness is a decision to let go of bitterness and resentment towards another person or situation. It’s letting go of the negative feelings and removing the focus and attention to the unwanted. When you change the direction of your focus, the direction of your life changes too.

Holding on to anger or grudges will not bring justice to the other person nor will it hold them accountable for their wrongdoing. The grief and pain only affect you. Holding on does not give you power – it leaves you powerless.

I like to remind myself that it’s not my place to bring justice to anyone. I believe everyone has their own personal karmic energy and will experience a result from their actions.   The good news is that although you cannot control their actions or their decisions, but you CAN control yours.

“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” ~ Hannah Arendt


5 Reasons This Is The Gift You Give Yourself:

1. Forgiveness can bring you a renewed peaceful spirit.

When you forgive others, even those who severely did you wrong, you find yourself feeling more positive overall and less stressed. You may even experience health benefits like lower blood pressure. It’s important to forgive others, not because they deserve your forgiveness, but because YOU deserve peace. You deserve to feel renewed and healed; you will. Just forgive. . .

2. Forgivenesss allows you to move in the direction of your goals.

When someone hurts or offends you, negative feelings of bitterness or revenge are created. Don’t let yourself pay the price over and over. Oftentimes, the focus on the past and the hurt will keep you from enjoying the wonders of today and the potential of tomorrow. Although you may think you’re a great multi-tasker (and you may be), your mind can only focus on one thing. When you allow yourself to forgive others immediately, you can focus on what truly matters, your goals, dreams and life purpose.

3. Forgiveness can bring more LOVE into your life.

Many act out in negative ways to somehow fulfill a desire for love and attention. When we forgive, we acknowledge that we are all imperfect and that we all make mistakes. With this new open-minded and compassionate perspective, we can learn to easily forgive and send well wishes to even those we feel you should “hate”.

Forgiving others is about releasing the role of being the victim. When you no longer see yourself as a victim, you will find people, in turn, treat you better and there is less need to forgive. You have opened your life up to more love and expanded your consciousness to a higher frequency of love. Ooh la la . . . 🙂

4.  Forgiveness allows you to have more understanding and compassion.

Embracing forgiveness is wonderful and can lead to positive feelings of understanding, compassion and empathy for the one who upset you. Believe it or not, everyone is doing the best they can, with what they have, where they are. We are all truly positive, loving beings by nature. Although, it doesn’t always appear that way, that is our true intention at heart.

With so much hurt in the world, it can be hard to see it that way. We want to point blame and hold grudges.  But, if we can see life as our school and ourselves as students then, in some way, everyone is a teacher.

This new perspective allows us to take the pain and transcend it into a lesson. Then, you no longer have to keep repeating the same pain. Everyone is brought into our lives to teach us something. What can the one your hate teach you right now, so you can release it and forgive?

5. Forgiveness allows us to take control of our own happiness.

Law of Attraction enthusiasts know that like attracts like and that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. We always have the ability to take control of our own happiness and life when we take responsibility for our emotions.

No matter the chaos around us, when we can stay centered from the inside and make wise and mature decisions (like forgiveness), we pave a life filled with happiness and love. On the contrary, if we allow others to steal our peace and rob us of our joy, we are essentially giving them the driver’s seat in our life.

Forgiveness is a lifestyle commitment. It’s letting go every day and letting happiness in.


Overall, if you find forgiveness to be too difficult – it’s okay. Take it one step at a time and re-read the above tips. Briefly reflect on the affect the situation has had on you thus far in your life, health, well-being and choices.  Then, think about being free from the pain. How does it feel?

You’ll know you’ve truly forgiven when you can think of that person and feel okay about them. Someday you may even feel good about them. Taking it even further – you’ll may even be able to see that person (even hug them) without feeling any negative emotion.

But, let’s take the first step.

Make the decision to forgive.

You deserve it.

Join the Conversation:
Is there someone that doesn’t deserve your forgiveness, but you deserve the peace?