How many things do you do for others out of guilt or obligation? When we stop doing things out of guilt and instead out of desire we feel more freedom. More freedom in our lives and in our relationships. The truth is, you don’t owe anyone anything. You are here to live your life for you and if that also involves others, great. If not, it’s okay too. You have the choice to build the relationships you desire.
“What other people think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer
Don’t allow others to make you feel bad or guilty for living your own life.
Here are 11 things you truly don’t owe anything, even if you think you do:
- You don’t owe anyone a justification for your values and your priorities.
- You don’t owe anyone a yes when you want to say no.
- You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationships, whether lovers or friends.
- You don’t owe anyone a debate or explanation on personal or political views.
- You don’t owe anyone an apology for a decision you would make again.
- You don’t owe anyone friendship, especially when they do not share your values.
- You don’t owe anyone the commitment to try something “new” just because you were asked.
- You don’t owe anyone a safe place for constant complaining and dwelling in their poor choices.
- You don’t owe anyone an answer other than the truth to prevent them from being uncomfortable.
- You don’t owe anyone false compliments just to make them feel better.
- You don’t owe anyone anything that doesn’t make you feel good and goes against your gut instinct.
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove.” – Maya Angelou
The next time you are tempted to justify something or act from guilt, just remember that you can’t control what other people think. You can only control what you think and how you feel.