Who are the people in your life you adore and are inspired by? What is it about these individuals that stimulate your inspiration? Perhaps it’s a mother, father, sister, brother, grandparent; could be someone who is not related, or a romantic interest. Is it their humor, strength, intelligence, honesty, energy, resilience, or something else? You can probably think of at least one person that has influenced you in this way.
Have you ever thought about the parts of your personality that make you adorable? Your mind may be too distracted by the day-to-day processes of life, but the truth is, you do in fact possess the qualities that people adore and admire. You may have even already inspired someone with these qualities without knowing it.
Adoration is one of the strongest emotions, and it creates strong very strong feelings of attraction. By exhibiting these qualities, we can indeed create feelings of attraction and admiration in someone else.
You may already possess some of the following qualities, or you may not. Either way, it doesn’t mean you can’t develop qualities that attract someone who adores you. Here are 7 ways you can create that attraction and adoration from someone special:
7 ways to attract someone who adores you:
“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. It is, on the contrary, an element calm and deep. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by qualities alone. It is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.” – Ellen G. White
1. Be Yourself
Nothing is more attractive than someone who is comfortable with being their authentic self both alone and in public. Attracting someone by being someone other than your true self, your true self will eventually shine through, and could set you up for failure. Simply put, people realize, respect, and adore what makes you who you are.
We are all nothing more than an embodiment of pure love, and to create something outside of that only creates a temporary shell. Don’t be afraid of who you are, you’re absolutely, authentically beautiful
2. Be honest
Even the most uncomfortable honesty shows that you have confidence, and that is a very attractive feature. Being a dishonest person is a selfish, manipulative, and egocentric behavior.
There may be someone who disagrees with your unfiltered honesty. They may not demonstrate compassion, and may even act ignorant or judgmental. No matter how people react to your honesty, the truth is that you’ll attract the right people – those who adore you for being your authentic self.
Bottom line: be honest your actions. Anything else will not give you a desirable result in the long-term.
3. Have a sense of humor
Life can be very overwhelming sometimes, but a good sense of humor is a tremendous asset that causes attraction and adoration. For women, there’s actually a biological reason why they view humor necessary in their relationships.
In a study done at Stanford University, 22 children aged six to 13 were shown a series of video clips – some of which were funny and some not. The children were hooked up to an fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging machine) to measure their brain’s activity. The results were that girls showed more positive feelings and a sense of reward in response to humor than the boys did.
Bottom line: When you make people laugh, it’ll make a big difference
4. Practice selflessness
Being selfless in a selfish world isn’t something that’s easy for everyone. Selfless people change the world, and often carry the heaviest burden for the greater good. Selfless people continue to earn the respect and adoration of people around the world.
In fact, some of the greatest leaders the world has ever seen like Jesus; Buddha; Ghandi; Mother Teresa; Nelson Mandela; Martin Luther King, Jr. – have all been some of the most selfless people we’ve ever known about.
Is selflessness one of your qualities? If not, it may be time to make an adjustment to your ends.
5. Be open-minded
We’re constantly evolving as a species, and along with it comes an evolved state of thinking that challenges the conventional norms that have been set into society in past years. Issues like marijuana use, global warming, armed conflicts and so on are all being challenged with a new train of evolutionary thought.
Regardless on where you stand on any of the above issues, staying open-minded is essential in attracting someone who adores the authentic view you have. Challenging the conventional line of thought and opening your own perspective demonstrates intelligence and fluid thinking as well – two more traits that make people adore you
6. Be helpful
Have you ever met someone who only has time for themselves? How did that make you feel?
Most likely, you weren’t too attracted to that person. Being a helpful person is an incredible trait that this world needs desperately. Problems like poverty, hunger, and other social ills could be solved very fast if only more people would decide to use their time for others when they have it. Sometimes, a simple 2-3 hours of your time can make a world of difference in the community.
If you don’t have the time, simple donate a few dollars where you can when you can. There are many volunteer organizations in your community that are always looking for help in any way they can get it.
7. Practice humility
Being around people who don’t assume and remain humble is most certainly one big fresh breath of air. Much of the western civilization and beyond has come to idolize boastful people that shout their own success from the rooftops. Unfortunately, many people have forgotten the adage of “Actions speak louder than words”.
The rare trait of being humble is an attractive quality far more authentic than being brash and domineering. Those who quietly and unpretentiously make the world a better place are truly adorable to many.
Humility is an attractive quality because it’s becoming increasingly rare. There will always be the crowd that idolizes the brash and domineering qualities of successful people. However – for us – true admiration and respect is best reserved for those who quietly and unpretentiously make the world a better place.
Join the discussion: How many of these traits do you have, or how many would you like to possess?