9 Ways to Attract Someone Who Adores You

9 Ways to Attract Someone Who Adores You


Are you trying to attract someone to love you? That person who will cherish you despite your flaws and love you through thick and thin?

“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. It is, on the contrary, an element calm and deep. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by qualities alone, it is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.” – Ellen G. White

When is the last time you thought about the innate qualities that make you absolutely adorable?

Maybe you are too busy, scattered, or distracted that you haven’t thought about these qualities for some time. Make no mistake: you possess unique qualities that people truly appreciate and admire. Perhaps without even knowing, someone drew inspiration and strength from these qualities.

Think about the people in your life who you adore and are inspired by. What is it about these individuals that stimulate your inspiration? Perhaps it’s a mother, father, sister, brother, grandparent; could be someone who is not related, or a romantic interest. Is it their humor, strength, intelligence, honesty, energy, resilience, or something else? You can probably think of at least one person that has influenced you in this way.

Adoration – love, devotion, respect, reverence or strong admiration – is one of the strongest emotions that we feel. To adore someone is to be in awe of their being. Further, it creates very strong feelings of attraction. By exhibiting our qualities, we indeed create feelings of attraction and admiration in someone else.

Perhaps you possess some of the following qualities, perhaps you don’t. However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t develop them. Here are nine demonstrable qualities that cause attraction and adoration:

9 ways to attract someone who adores you:

1. Be Yourself

There is nothing more attractive than embracing who you really are and showing that to others.  Even if you succeed in attracting someone by using tactics that don’t reflect your true self, you can almost guarantee that your true self will be discovered.  When you allow your unique self to shine through, people will realize, respect, and yes, even adore that.

It all boils down to the fact that we are all truly embodiments of love.  Why would you want to create something outside of that?  You may have to discover yourself for yourself first, but when you do, you won’t want to ever be anyone else.

2. Be honest

Being honest about your thoughts and feelings is attractive. Honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable, demonstrates individuality and confidence. On the other hand, dishonesty is seen as selfish, manipulative, and egocentric.

Unfiltered honesty about your opinions and perspectives appeals to most people. Those that disagree with and admonish you because of your opinions do not demonstrate understanding or rational thinking. They’re being harshly judgmental and showing people they are ignorant in the process.

Simply put: be honest in everything that you do. Anything else is lying or deceitfulness, plain and simple.

 3. Have a sense of humor

Having a sense of humor is a tremendous asset. Life is complicated and messy at times, which makes this quality all the more important. It also turns out that a sense of humor is a quality that causes attraction and adoration.

Women reading this article will attest to humor being incredibly attractive in both friends and romantic partners. Turns out that there is a biological reason why women view humor necessary in both plutonic and romantic relationships.

In a study done at Stanford University, 22 children aged six to 13 were shown a series of video clips – some of which were funny and some not. Researchers connected the children to a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine (fMRI) to measure their brain’s activity.

When viewing the humorous material, girls showed more positive feelings in response than the boys did. Further, the girls felt more of a sense of reward in watching them.

Make them laugh, fellas.

4. Be confident.

Confidence is not only important in attraction. In fact, it’s also important for an individual’s self-esteem. You can often identify confident people readily, as they often radiate positivity, courage, and self-respect. Radiating that same energy helps you attract someone of your quality.

Often times, confident people are the change agents of society. They believe very strongly in their ideas and their ability to get people to get behind them – often through sheer self-assurance. It takes a tremendous amount of confidence to create a following – in both yourself and in other people.

The former Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple, is a perfect example. Jobs took a computer prototype he manufactured in his garage, created a brand, and built a multi-billion dollar empire. Jobs and Steve Wozniak, the other co-founder, dealt with obstacle after obstacle before Apple, Inc. was actually established. Not to mention, Jobs was fired and re-hired as CEO from the very company that he helped create!

5. Practice selflessness

Putting others before ourselves is not something for the faint of heart. Individuals who are selfless have changed our world in incredible ways. These agents of change have often shouldered the heaviest burden; and through their willingness to sacrifice themselves for the greater good, these people continue to earn the respect and adoration of people around the world.

Jesus; Buddha; Gandhi; Mother Teresa; Nelson Mandela; Martin Luther King Jr…some of our greatest leaders were also the most selfless.

Now it turns to you. Is selflessness one of your qualities?

6. Be open-minded

As human beings continue to evolve, our society does as well. We are witnessing the challenge of conventional thinking on various issues – gay marriage, marijuana use, armed conflicts, global warming, etc. – viewpoints that were once considered untouchably mainstream.

Regardless of where you stand on an issue, the ability to remain open-minded is an essential quality to have. The ability to challenge conventional thinking, expand your consciousness, and pursue knowledge is invaluable. It also demonstrates intelligence and fluid thinking – two other traits that are admirable in people.

7. Be helpful

Have you ever met a selfish person? What was your impression? Similar to most people, you likely didn’t have a favorable opinion. The willingness to help others is something that our world needs more of. Humankind could solve many of the problems that exist–poverty, hunger, and strife–if more people just make a determined effort to help.

If you’ve achieved some sort of success and are financially capable, consider donating to a worthy cause. Even better, consider donating your time. Numerous volunteer organizations exist within your community and are always looking for volunteers to work with and promote their cause. You may even meet and attract someone with a mindset similar to yours.

8. Practice humility

What a wonderful breath of fresh air to be around someone who’s successful and intelligent, yet humble and unassuming. In America and other places, we idolize people who are boastful and brash if they’ve achieved any success. The axiom “Actions speak louder than words” has seemingly fallen by the wayside.

Humility is an attractive quality because it’s becoming increasingly rare. There will always be the crowd that idolizes the brash and domineering qualities of successful people. However, many do reserve true admiration and respect for those who quietly and unpretentiously make the world a better place.

9. Be resourceful

Resourcefulness – the ability to deal skillfully with new or difficult situations or to find solutions to problems – is a wonderful quality to have. Our experiences have given us a wide range of knowledge that enables us to help ourselves and others.

It’s not enough to simply possess the knowledge for your own benefit. Use your resources to help others in some way. Remember that not everyone receives all the same blessings that you do. Furthermore, you can make a big difference in the life of someone else.

Look into becoming a Big Brother or Big Sister, volunteering in a classroom, helping a child to read, volunteering in a hospital, or something else.

Join the discussion:  Have you attracted someone who adores you through these traits?  Share your story below!

12 thoughts on “9 Ways to Attract Someone Who Adores You

  1. I thought this was an excellent article, many of the traits are only exhibited by people who have had learned some tough lessons and used them as a catalyst for personal growth.
    I am currently involved with a man who has most of these qualities and is an immensely enjoyable person to be with. And even better, he is making me be introspective about myself and unknowingly pushes me to be a better person.
    I don’t think you can ask for more than that in a relationship.

  2. “9 Ways to Attract Someone who Adores You”?? Seems like someone is already attracted to you if they adore you.
    BTW, Nelson Mandela did a lot of good for humanity, but he also has a lot of blood on his hands and is responsible for the deaths of many innocent people. I’m not sure why this so often gets completely overlooked.
    For this reason I don’t think he should be put in the same category as Jesus; Buddha; Gandhi; Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King, Jr.


  3. Love this post! I have been recently divorced it's been a few years now. But i have a new partner who was my personal trainer at the time and also a man who i had known for years and when I was 13 yrs old we use to go on dates with each other. The first year of him training me I really started to fall for him he is extreamly intelligent, ask him a question about anything and he will be able to answer it, he is sooo funny best humour I have experienced and he is ohh so handsome. But when i began to fall for him he was my trainer and he wanted to keep it professional although we secretly hooked up here and there we just had a connection that was irresistible. But then he couldnt hold his feelings back anymore. He said to me he really admired me and loved how I am as a person and how selfless i am and how caring and thoughtful i can be and he said to me that he loved watching me and that it made him happy inside and that I inspired him. And now we are together 2 years solid and i have never been happier. These 9 ways to be attractive are real and the most important one is to be yourself at all times the light always shines when you are being true and people notice it. Peace and love

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