Are you trying to attract someone to love you? That person who will cherish you despite your flaws and love you through thick and thin?
“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. It is, on the contrary, an element calm and deep. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by qualities alone, it is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.” – Ellen G. White
When is the last time you thought about the innate qualities that make you adorable?
Maybe you are too busy, scattered, or distracted that you haven’t thought about these qualities for some time. Make no mistake: you possess unique qualities that people truly appreciate and admire. Perhaps without even knowing, someone drew inspiration and strength from these qualities.
Think about the people you adore and are inspired by in your life. What is it about these individuals that stimulate your inspiration? Perhaps it’s a mother, father, sister, brother, or grandparent; it could be someone unrelated or with a romantic interest. Is it their humor, strength, intelligence, honesty, energy, resilience, or something else? You can probably think of at least one person who has influenced you this way.
Adoration – love, devotion, respect, reverence or strong admiration – is one of our strongest emotions. To adore someone is to be in awe of their being. Further, it creates very strong feelings of attraction. By exhibiting our qualities, we create feelings of attraction and admiration in someone else.
Perhaps you possess some of the following qualities, and perhaps you don’t. However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t develop them. Here are nine demonstrable qualities that cause attraction and adoration:
Nine ways to attract someone who adores you:
1. Be Yourself
Nothing is more attractive than embracing yourself and showing that to others. Even if you succeed in attracting someone by using tactics that don’t reflect your true self, you can almost guarantee that your true self will be discovered. When you allow your unique self to shine through, people will realize, respect, and even adore that.
It all boils down to the fact that we all embody love. Why would you want to create something outside of that? You may have to discover yourself for yourself first, but when you do, you won’t ever want to be anyone else.
2. Be honest
Being honest about your thoughts and feelings is attractive. Honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable, demonstrates individuality and confidence. On the other hand, dishonesty is seen as selfish, manipulative, and narcissistic.
Unfiltered honesty about your opinions and perspectives appeals to most people. Those that disagree with and admonish you because of your opinions do not demonstrate understanding or rational thinking. They’re being harshly judgmental and showing people they are ignorant in the process.
Simply put: be honest in everything that you do. Anything else is lying or deceitfulness, plain and simple.
3. Have a sense of humor
Having a sense of humor is a tremendous asset. Life is complicated and messy at times, which makes this quality all the more critical. It also turns out that a sense of humor is a quality that causes attraction and adoration.
Women reading this article will attest to humor being incredibly attractive in both friends and romantic partners. There is a biological reason why women view humor as necessary in both plutonic and romantic relationships.
In a study done at Stanford University, 22 children aged six to 13 were shown a series of video clips – some of which were funny and some not. Researchers connected the children to a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine (fMRI) to measure their brain activity.
When viewing the humorous material, girls showed more positive feelings in response than boys did. Further, the girls felt more of a reward in watching them.
Make them laugh, fellas.
4. Be confident.
Confidence is not only crucial in attraction. It’s also essential for an individual’s self-esteem. You can often identify confident people readily, as they radiate positivity, courage, and self-respect. Radiating that same energy helps you attract someone of your quality.
Oftentimes, confident people are the change agents of society. They strongly believe in their ideas and their ability to get people behind them – often through sheer self-assurance. It takes a tremendous amount of confidence to create a following – in both yourself and in other people.
The late Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple, is a perfect example. Jobs took a computer prototype he manufactured in his garage, created a brand, and built a multi-billion dollar empire. Jobs and Steve Wozniak, the other co-founder, dealt with obstacles before Apple, Inc. was established. Not to mention, Jobs was fired and re-hired as CEO from the company he helped create!
5. Practice selflessness
Putting others before ourselves is not something for the faint of heart. Selfless individuals have changed our world in incredible ways. These agents of change have often shouldered the heaviest burden. Through their willingness to sacrifice themselves for the greater good, these people continue to earn respect and adoration of people worldwide.
Jesus; Buddha; Gandhi; Mother Teresa; Nelson Mandela; Martin Luther King Jr…some of our most outstanding leaders, were also the most selfless.
Now it turns to you. Is selflessness one of your qualities?
6. Be open-minded
As human beings continue to evolve, our society does as well. We are witnessing the challenge of conventional thinking on various issues – gay marriage, marijuana use, armed conflicts, global warming, etc. – viewpoints that were once considered untouchably mainstream.
Regardless of where you stand on an issue, remaining open-minded is an essential quality. The ability to challenge conventional thinking, expand your consciousness, and pursue knowledge is invaluable. It also demonstrates intelligence and fluid thinking – two other traits that are admirable in people.
7. Be helpful
Have you ever met a selfish person? What was your impression? Similar to most people, you likely didn’t have a favorable opinion. The willingness to help others is something that our world needs more of. Humankind could solve many of the problems- poverty, hunger, and strife- if more people make a determined effort to help.
If you’ve achieved some success and are financially capable, consider donating to a worthy cause. Even better, consider donating your time. Numerous volunteer organizations exist within your community, always looking for volunteers to work with and promote their cause. You may even meet and attract someone with a mindset similar to yours.
8. Practice humility
What a wonderful breath of fresh air to be around someone successful, intelligent, humble, and unassuming. In America and other places, we idolize people who are boastful and reckless if they’ve achieved any success. The axiom “Actions speak louder than words” seemingly falls by the wayside.
Humility is an attractive quality because it’s becoming increasingly rare. There will always be the crowd that idolizes the brash and domineering qualities of successful people. However, many reserve true admiration and respect for those who quietly and unpretentiously make the world better.
9. Be resourceful
Resourcefulness – the ability to deal skillfully with new or difficult situations or to find solutions to problems – is a wonderful quality to have. Our experiences have given us a wide range of knowledge to help ourselves and others.
It’s not enough to possess the knowledge for your benefit. Use your resources to help others in some way. Remember that not everyone receives all the same blessings that you do. Furthermore, you can make a big difference in someone else’s life.
Look into becoming a Big Brother or Big Sister, volunteering in a classroom, helping a child to read, volunteering in a hospital, or something else.
Final Thoughts on Your Efforts to Attract Someone Who Will Adore You
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