Do your thoughts empower or deflate you? Are you telling yourself lies?
Of the 60,000+ thoughts which humans have every day, most of us have at least a few demeaning ones. Those little cold and prickly things you tell yourself, however, can do more damage than you think. They can sabotage your relationship with family, friends, and even yourself.
To prevent these “negative affirmations” from creating a life you do not want, you must first become aware of negative thought patterns. If you tell yourself any of the following statements habitually, stop them in their tracks and replace them with encouraging things instead!
8 Things to Stop Telling Yourself Right Now
1 – “I’m not good enough.”
Sorry to say it, but that’s the biggest lie ever told in history. If you weren’t good enough, then why are you here? All of us incarnated on Earth at this time in order to fulfill our ultimate purpose, and if we didn’t have what it takes, we wouldn’t be here in the first place. You must first establish a sense of self-worth before you can accomplish what you want in life.
What to say instead: I am a capable, powerful being. I have everything it takes to live a life I envision for myself.
2 – “That’s impossible.”
How do you feel when you tell yourself this? Every time you convince yourself that something is impossible, you make it so – simply because of your beliefs! We create our own reality. If you label something as impossible, it will become unattainable. You have to believe wholeheartedly in something if you really want to achieve your wildest dreams and get out of a limiting mindset.
What to say instead: I overcome my limiting beliefs, knowing that ALL is possible on my journey toward abundance!
3 – “I’ll start tomorrow.”
“Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” – Benjamin Franklin
Imagine what you could get done today if you nip the habit of procrastination in the bud. Tomorrow becomes the next day, or the next week, or even the next month or year if you let the time slip away. By putting off your plans or goals, you tell yourself that other things in your life take precedence over them. Whether you want to lose weight, write a book, become an actor, or fly to the moon, the best day to start is always today!
What to say instead: I am vigilant in achieving the things that are important to me.
4 – “My life sucks. It will never get better.”
Listen to the limiting language here. If you say that your life sucks, then you can’t possibly see all the good things that you have to cherish. If you tell yourself it won’t get better, you automatically put up an invisible barrier that keeps you getting your life back on track. You have already created the future with your thoughts and words, and it won’t change unless you align your thoughts with a positive outcome.
What to say instead: I can always change my circumstances, and I know this is only temporary. Life is my teacher.
5 – “I can’t.”
This can apply to almost anything, whether you want to cut out junk food, go to the gym at least four times a week, or ask your boss for a raise. Most people limit their outcomes because they put up walls between them and positive thinking. Of course, life comes with many challenges, but deciding to overcome these challenges will only make you stronger and show you that you can literally achieve anything you set your heart to!
What to say instead: My self-confidence is a strong foundation of support. I can do anything!
6 – “I’m afraid I’ll fail.”
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein
If you never try, you will never know how far your imagination can take you. You can’t ever reach new heights if you keep your feet firmly planted in the ground. Most, if not all, revolutionaries of our past and present reached the summit because they failed over and over again. However, they didn’t let their failures stop them. They used them as a learning tool and motivated themselves to keep climbing the mountain, no matter how many times they fell.
What to say instead: I visualize myself succeeding at my goals. It is my time to succeed!
7 – “My friends and family won’t agree with me.”
Anytime you seek approval, you will never feel satisfied. There will always be someone that doesn’t agree with you, but that doesn’t mean you should value their opinion more than your own. Only you truly know what’s best for you, so asking others to validate your plans only take you further away from your goals. Placing your worth in the hands of others only detracts from your own self-worth, and will make them think they can manipulate your choices.
What to say instead: I will stand confidently behind my choices and follow my heart regardless. I deserve to reach my full potential!
8 – “I am too [insert negative adjective here.]”
When you allow negative self-talk, your mind, body, and soul become infected with self-defeating, harmful energy. Describing yourself in a negative light or attributing yourself to undesirable labels only create more distance between you and who you want to become. Remember all the positive things about yourself, and flood your mind and heart with loving thoughts about yourself. Keep in mind that what you think, you become.
What to say instead: I am a wonderful, beautiful, vibrant being who is forever worthy of my own love and respect.