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7 Signs You’re Emotionally Drained By Your Partner

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“If your relationship is one sided and one person is doing all the giving, don’t be surprised when the other gets emotionally drained and gives up.” – Unknown

No one wants to consider that their partner is a drain on their emotional well-being. After all, relationships are supported be a source of emotional wealth and happiness. But unfortunately, “People we love can sometimes drain us the most. Our mates may not be trying to do this, but life’s demands add up,” adds psychiatrist, intuitive healer and author Judith Orloff MD. This is because relationships don’t always work out the way that we had envisioned.

If you find that you’re not feeling quite like yourself after spending time with your significant other, it may be a sign that they’re emotionally draining you. You could be completely consumed by your relationship without even knowing it. Being too wrapped up in your significant other can make it hard to examine whether or not the relationship is a healthy one. There are some tell-tale signs that your partner is a significant drain on your emotional energy, and that something has got to give.

Here Are 7 Signs You’re Being Emotionally Drained By Your Partner

1. You can’t stop thinking about your partner

This isn’t the same as that honey-moon stage where all you want to do is spend time with your significant other. Rather, when you’re unable to function and these thoughts consume your every waking moment is when the situation gets bad. You may find that you’re consumed with wondering where they are, or what they’re doing, and not knowing the answer is causing you distress and an inability to think about anything else.

Psychologist Nikki Martinez says, “Your partner might be draining you emotionally when you spend an unhealthy amount of time focused on intrusive thoughts. When you are thinking about what they are doing, who they are with, what they are doing with this person, or what the nature of this relationship is — this can be draining.

While this isn’t necessarily the fault of your partner, it may be a sign that you’re subconsciously unable to trust them.

2. You’re always tired

Using up too much emotion uses up our energies. This fatigue isn’t like the one you feel at the end of a hard day because that “kind of exhaustion can be remedied with a couple of nights’ worth of decent sleep,” says art director and herbalist-in-training Catherine Winter.

When we’re giving too much to one person, it can leave us feeling drained and exhausted, especially when we’re not getting enough back.

Being with your partner shouldn’t leave you feeling like you’ve got all of the energy sucked out of you. When you feel like that, it’s because you’re being emotionally drained. It could either be because of them, or because you don’t know when to stop giving.

3. You’re eager to spend time alone

A lot of people understand that feeling of enjoying spending time by themselves. However, you may be facing an emotionally draining partner when you feel a sense of relief, euphoria and excitement knowing that you’re going to be spending some time away from them.

Relationship expert April Masini says, “If you’re all that excited to have a weekend alone, consider that the reason for your joy is that they’re draining you when they’re around. You should be happy to have a break, but not that happy.

If you’re not missing your partner when they’re gone, it might be a sign you don’t want them around as much as you thought.

4. Your partner isn’t giving you an emotional boost

One of the earliest signs of being in an emotionally draining relationship is whether or not you feel emotionally lifted when your partner is around. “Healthy relationships are supportive. Those in them don’t always agree on plans or next steps, but they hear each other out respectfully,” says psychotherapist and author Abby Rodman.

Therefore, if you feel happy, relaxed and eager to spend time together, it’s a sign that your partner is doing their job, emotionally. On the other hand, if you’re simply going through the motions and don’t feel much other than tired, this can mean that your partner is more draining than they are uplifting.

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5. Your partner asks too much

This may not be your partner’s fault entirely, but rather how much you can emotionally handle. As Salama Marine, psychologist and online dating expert explains, “It’s not about your partner’s behavior, but more about how you feel about it. Everybody has their own limit.

If you feel like your partner is asking more than you know that you can give when it comes to emotional support, it’s probably a sign that you don’t have enough in you. This can mean that you’re being emotionally drained while your partner is being emotionally starved. It can be a sign of incompatible partnership rather than deliberate malicious behavior by either partner.

6. You walk on eggshells

If you ever hold your tongue in a conversation rather than share your opinion, or let your partner win an argument because you would rather keep your feelings private than risk upsetting them, this is a red flag to an emotionally draining relationship. That feeling of walking on eggshells won’t just disappear if you ignore it long enough.

A healthy, non-abusive relationship is built on support, admiration, empathy, balance, and personal responsibility. These elements add up to a love built on a respectful mutuality,” adds Rodman.

Therefore, if your partner doesn’t have the capacity to handle your emotions the way that you’re expected to handle theirs, it’s an imbalance in the relationship which can cause an emotional drain.

7. Your needs aren’t being met

If you’re doing everything in your power to meet your partner’s emotional needs, but you feel like your own needs have been pushed aside, then this is a definite sign of emotional drain. You’ll want to reconsider the relationship if it seems extremely one-sided, and you can’t seem to get them to communicate. It isn’t fair for either partner if they aren’t getting the amount of emotional support that they need.

Final thoughts

Relationships are all about partnership, communication and compromise. Emotionally draining relationships don’t always have a black and white finger to point when it comes to who’s to blame. It can be two partners with incompatible emotional scales and needs, or it can be one partner needing more emotional support than their significant other can provide.

Reaching out for a support network for both partners can help balance out the emotional labor and keep the relationship balanced and healthy. Other times, the relationship is simply incompatible, and both partners are better off without each other.  Whatever the choice, knowing the signs of emotional drain can help both partners make the right decision.

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References:
http://www.drjudithorloff.com/Free-Articles/Cope-with-Draining-Mate.htm
https://www.bustle.com/articles/166049-9-signs-your-partner-is-emotionally-draining-you
https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/5552/8-glaring-signs-mentally-emotionally-drained/
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/abby-rodman-licsw/youre-not-going-crazy-5-s_b_8889808.html

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