“True love is not the number of kisses, or how often you get them; true love is the feeling that still lingers long after the kiss is over.” – Anonymous
Falling in love feels amazing, but relationships are a lot of work. Especially when a relationship is new, many people often wonder whether or not it’s meant to last. Even the relationships that have lasted for quite some time can have the insecurities of whether or not the relationship is meant to last.
Author Kate Figes says, “One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match. A good relationship is about navigating the numerous differences between you – over politics, food, money, how to raise children. It’s those differences that make life more interesting, as our lover opens up a whole new way of seeing or understanding the world.”
Fortunately, many people show some kind of sign that they want to be with their partner forever. If you’re wondering about how long your relationship is going to last, look at these signs that your partner wants to be with you for as long as possible.
7 Signs Your Partner Wants To Spend Their Life With You
1. They put your first
Of course, sometimes we have to put ourselves first because there are things in our lives that are extremely important. But when your partner wants to be with you forever, they will make sure to put you first when it’s practical for them to do so.
Dating expert James Preece says, “If he chooses to see you rather than spend time with his friends, you know things are going well. If he’s willing to adjust his schedule to fit in time with you, then that’s even better. He loves being with you and feels most comfortable when you are together.”
They sacrifice things for you, and put your needs ahead of their own. It shows that they want to be with you, and care about your needs.
2. They understand you
When your partner wants to be with you, they make an effort to understand you. It’s not that they understand you magically without having to try – it’s that they put in the effort to understand your thoughts, emotions, opinions and desires. They understand you on a level like no other, and they’re the only person who wants to understand you as deeply as they do. Being understood is a universally amazing feeling, especially by your partner.
3. Being with them is easy
Your relationship is full of laughter, love and fun. There’s no drama or games. Your partner communicates with you and makes it feel like being with them is easy. While it may almost feel too easy to be with him, you know that there’s no way you would trade that feeling for the world. It doesn’t mean that you never argue – just that your relationship lacks drama and upset.
Dating coach Patrick Banks summed it up pretty well, actually. He notes, “There’s nothing more liberating than being in a relationship where you don’t have to wear a façade every time you meet. I mean, think about it, having to hide an annoying habit or two from your partner might seem like a minor hindrance in the short-term, but in the long haul it can end up driving you mad.”
4. They think the same way you do
While your thoughts and opinions don’t always align the same way, they’re definitely complementary. They have your same way of thinking, and they have the same values that you do. You never feel afraid of telling your partner something or expressing an opinion, because you know that they accept you and understand you. Oftentimes, you can simply give them a look and know exactly what they’re thinking.
Professor of psychology Kelly Campbell, Ph.D. says, “For long-lasting love, the more similarity (e.g., age, education, values, personality, hobbies), the better. Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love.”
5. You trust them with all your heart
Your partner wanting to be with you means that they’ll never do anything to betray your trust, which means that you trust him with everything. You trust your partner to be honest with you, and you trust your partner to keep all of your thoughts and secrets to themselves. The trust is, of course, mutual. You trust one another to be kind, supportive and affectionate with one another.
6. They make you feel comfortable
Your partner makes you feel a sense of comfort that you’ve never really known before. You feel relaxed and at home with them wherever you are. Even when you’re having a horrible day, your partner can make you feel like you’re on top of the world. They’re the exact person that you want to see after a hard day, and whenever you’re with them you feel relaxed.
7. They make you better
More than this, they challenge you to become a better person. They encourage you to be a stronger person, to be more courageous, kind and attentive to the needs of yourself and the people around you.
“One of the greatest things about being in a healthy long-term relationship is that while you both accept each other for who you are, you aren’t shy about pushing your significant other to constantly improve themselves. You see, couples who never grow as individuals and human beings usually end up boring the hell out of each other until there’s no spark left in the relationship,” adds dating coach Banks.
You both grow together to be stronger, better people, without feeling judged or criticized. This is how you know that your partner is aiming to be with you forever.
No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, wanting to know if your partner plans on being with you is a natural feeling. When your partner is planning on being with you forever, your relationship will have all the work and effort that it needs put into it. Your partner will communicate with you, make sure that you can trust them, and make you feel like you’ve never felt before. That’s how you know that your partner wants to be together forever.