Over time, our relationships with ourselves can become distant, and in some cases, harmful, if we don’t hear the alarm bells sounding off, trying to tell us to love ourselves like it’s our job. With the hurried pace of life today, many people simply don’t take the time to look after themselves, or feel too tired after a long day at work or school to even think about their relationship with themselves. So, we trudge on, just trying to make it through the day, but feeling empty and exhausted all the same.
If this sounds like you, start taking small steps in order to improve your relationship with yourself. This doesn’t have to mean quitting your job or dropping out of school to make time for yourself, but just carving out ten or fifteen minutes a day to have “me” time.
Here are 7 signs it’s time to better your relationship with yourself:
1. You feel disconnected from yourself.
With so many people pressed for time and under pressure to keep up with their obligations, it comes as no surprise that a large part of the population feels disconnected from themselves. We don’t spend near enough time in nature, allowing the sunlight to grace our skin and letting the breeze carry away all of our problems. In short, we feel detached from ourselves because we have a broken connection with nature. We ARE nature, so we can find ourselves again by connecting more with Mother Earth and less with our jobs and phones and possessions.
If you feel like an alien in your own body, it might be time to do some deep meditation or yoga, or get back to nature for even thirty minutes a day. This will greatly improve your relationship with yourself and all of humanity.
2. You’ve been having health problems recently.
More than anything, not feeling well should make the alarms go off in your head and tell you that you need to slow down, take some deep breaths, and do some deep reflecting. Stress is actually the culprit behind many common health problems today, so in order to combat the stress, you need to go to the source of it. Once you eliminate the major stressors, you can begin to take your health back into your hands by meditating regularly, exercising, eating clean, whole foods, and living a life you truly enjoy.
3. You have a negative self-image.
You can’t live a positive life seeing through a distorted lens, so you must correct how you view yourself if you want to see big changes. Throw away all the man-made expectations of what and who you should be, and instead, see yourself as a manifestation of energy, perfectly worthy of occupying space on this Earth. Loving yourself and having a good relationship with yourself doesn’t have to be as hard as some people make it out to be.
You don’t have to read every self-help book out there and meditate for twelve hours a day just to gain acceptance from yourself. Just make that choice everyday to love yourself no matter what happens, what mistakes you make, or how your clothes fit you. None of this matters; the only significance is in how you see yourself. Because this is the lens in which you will see the world through.
4. You engage in self-harming behaviors.
Cutting, starving yourself, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol, doing drugs often, and eating a poor diet all are indications that you need to work on your relationship with yourself. If you saw your friend or relative engaging in these types of behaviors, would you be concerned? You should have the same level of respect and care for yourself as you do for others, so treat yourself as you would want to be treated.
However, if you feel you cannot stop any of these behaviors, please seek professional help immediately.
5. You always want to run from yourself.
Sometimes, we just feel restless and sort of trapped inside our 3D selves, and just want to escape somehow. However, in this lifetime, we have been gifted with our own personal vessel for a reason. Think of yourself as a little spaceship, traveling through life and having experiences that will help you lift off into some other dimension after you have explored this one. No one else gets to have the same ship as you, so you should see yourself as a rarity, a beautiful diamond that constantly gets polished with each new experience.
Instead of trying to run from your life, your problems, or yourself, just embrace the person you are. Feel blessed to have even landed on this giant rock spinning in space, and just focus on the present moment. You will enjoy life much more and have a better relationship with yourself if you simply express gratitude about this miracle we call life.
6. The relationships in your life don’t serve your best interest.
You might wonder how your relationships determine your relationship with yourself, but remember: you attract what you are. If you don’t have high self-worth, you will attract people into your life who don’t love themselves, either. Everything starts with you, so if you want to have positive, inspiring relationships, look at the person in the mirror first.