Did you know that 6 out of 10 people report feeling unhappy in their relationship?
However, many people choose to stay in unhappy relationships due to comfort, safety, stability, or even fear of leaving. People remain in relationships that don’t bring them happiness because they fear being alone, but staying in a relationship with someone who makes you unhappy doesn’t seem any better.
In life, we all have to make choices at some point, and sometimes, the hardest thing and the right thing are the same thing.
You completely deserve a relationship that will make you excited about life, give you encouragement, and make you feel supported; any relationship that makes you feel less than ecstatic isn’t worth having.
Here are 5 signs your relationship is making you unhappy:
1. You would rather spend your time with friends or family.
If you don’t even want to spend time with your partner, this should speak volumes to you about your unhappiness in your relationship. A solid relationship must have trust, communication, and most importantly, the desire to stay with one another despite the obstacles. If you have grown tired of your partner and find yourself hanging out with friends or family in your spare time, you probably are in an unhappy relationship.
You need to communicate your feelings to your partner, and either work on the things that make you feel unhappy, or go your separate ways if the problems can’t be resolved. Unhappy relationships can drag on for years, but they don’t have to.
2. Your relationship feels more draining than satisfying.
If you always feel exhausted around your partner and don’t feel that connection with them any longer, this points to an unhappy relationship. A relationship should make you feel motivated, overjoyed, and alive, not lethargic and uninspired. Maybe you two just don’t click any more, or you might have different life goals which would require you to go down separate paths. This doesn’t mean either person should be blamed for the lack of chemistry; just have a civilized, rational conversation and check in with them about their feelings. You might be able to work through these issues, but if not, you’re much better off on your own than staying in an unhappy relationship.
3. You don’t feel sexually attracted to your partner anymore.
Of course, you might not have sex as often as you did in the beginning of your relationship, but the desire to have sex with your partner should never go away entirely. If you find yourself saying no to sex more often, deeper issues might need to come to the surface. To have sexual attraction to someone, you must also feel emotionally and mentally connected to them. Sex doesn’t define a relationship, but it is vital to having a healthy one.
If you and your partner don’t have sex regularly anymore, you should sit down with them to figure out the true problem. A happy relationship requires intimacy on both a physical and emotional level, and these two aspects need to stay balanced in order to make a relationship thrive.
4. You don’t enjoy your time with your partner.
When you do spend time together, what feelings do you get? Do you feel excited to go out with them or watch movies at home, or do you dread hanging out with them? Your heart will always guide you to the best decision for yourself, so if you truly don’t enjoy your partner’s company anymore, then you need to reevaluate your relationship.Why stay in a relationship that doesn’t bring you joy anymore?
It might seem scary to leave a relationship behind, especially if you have been with the same person for years, but your heart will thank you in the long run, because you will finally feel free again. You deserve a relationship with someone who will light a fire within your soul, not extinguish it.
5. You feel trapped or suffocated in your relationship.
A relationship shouldn’t make you feel tied down or like you’re missing out on life; if you feel this way, chances are, you’re in an unhappy relationship. Your partner should add value to your life, teaching you new things and giving you unforgettable experiences. A relationship should never feel like a prison cell; if it does, then you need to make your escape and find someone who will liberate you.
A relationship should never feel like a burden; in fact, it should just feel like an extension of the relationship you have with yourself. If you maintain a good relationship with you, then the person who reflects you should simply add to your life, not subtract from it.