Is there a sure way to know if you’ve met “the one?” It takes time for a partner to give a clue on how they feel. In this stressful world, long-term commitments seem rare. They are as mythical as finding a unicorn in the backyard. But, when you find that one person who wants to be with you, hang on to them.
1. Your partner relates with ease.
He/she says, “I’ve never told this to anyone before.” This is a sure sign you might just be the one. Relationships that are easy don’t require questioning. Men, especially, have a hard time with sharing intimate details. They don’t speak of their fears. Most people hold on to their vulnerability and do not show it for a long time in relationships. So, if your partner is sharing, openly crying, and feels completely comfortable around you this is a sign that there is a deeper meaning to this union than just a passing fling.
2. There is not enough time to spend together.
Relationships go through this in the beginning, but if you are still each others’ best past time this is a nice clue that your partner thinks you are a keeper. People who make time to be with their partners have the best intention of making it serious. If you are as happy outside of the bedroom as you are in the bedroom you can be sure that your magical powers have a sweet spell over your partner.
Is your sweetheart planning on spending holidays and other special days with you and your family? Does your partner enjoy activities that also involve his/her friends? Do you feel included in things that are important to him/her? People who fall deeply in love crave being together always. There is constant laughter and play. These relationships are incredibly connected in physical, emotional and spiritual ways.
3. There is little or no outside drama.
You understand each other without explanations or expectations. Relationships that are meant to turn into a committed one have very strong bonds. Men are extremely grateful for not having to explain things. Women also enjoy not having to worry about expectations.
If you are not dealing with jealousy, creating scenarios that question commitment, then you can be sure this person will keep you around for the rest of his/her life. If your partner is telling you that you make him/her feel calmed and safe, you can be sure you are the one.
4. You share similar priorities and morale values.
If you are discussing finances, future goals, and the what if’s of your lives together, most likely that should let you know there is some seriousness to this relationship. Partnerships that share similar ventures such as where you will live, having a family, pets, and other deep conversations tend to be stable. They are sure signs of future commitments.
Have you heard the phrase, “Our kids….” And no one fainted? Future plans come natural to those who want to stay for the long haul.
5. You can be yourself completely.
Your partner sees your vulnerability and weakness and still loves you. This is a sure sign that you are a keeper. It’s easy to be happy. The struggle in partnership comes when stress appears via finances, past traumas, unresolved emotional issues and work problems. If your partner is sticking with you through all the ups and downs of life, be sure you are marriage material. We tend to push those we love when we are overwhelmed. If he or she is still showing you that you are not alone accept that you are worth it.
In our society we have placed a lot of hardcore value when defining the phrase “The One.” This is not just for marriage. There are millions of couples out there who do not officially tie the knot. We expect the one to be like a fairy tale. The true companion in our lives is better that any story. You are the one person your counterpart wants to spend a lifetime with. The union of two souls is one of the most special events in our lives. To be “the one” is to be the one person who has your back and will raise you when you are down. That person knows your value.
“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage