5 Great Lessons for Introverts

5 Great Lessons for Introverts

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Some of us enjoy spending most of our free time alone. The people that make up this group are called introverts. Introverts tend to be more focused on their own thoughts and feelings. Also, constant social interaction effectively drains introverts of their energy, as they are more contemplative.

This is the opposite of extroverts, who are known to be outgoing, aggressive, and have the ability to make quick decisions.

Introverts are a minority and are forced to acclimate to environments that often take an emotional and mental toll. The extroverted environments of work and social gatherings often make an introvert more withdrawn, which often comes with a critical eye from those who don’t understand introversion.

It is important for introverts to be mindful of things that can be done to feel total wellness in what can be a trying social and work life.

Here are five great lessons for introverts:

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“Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe.” – Susan Cain

1. Introverts quit trying to “fit in”.

This is hard because we all want to be liked and respected. But, there is a good chance that others will like and respect you regardless of a difference in personality. Think about it – how many friends do you have with a different personality, even the “opposite”, from yourself?

That said, there are going to be those who question your personality. There will be others who will think you’re withdrawn and aloof. There will be those who don’t understand your need for quiet space. It’s your prerogative whether or not you feel compelled to explain; doing so may do a bit of good in how others perceive you. However, you should feel obligated to (1) have people understand you and (2) have people like you.

2.  Socialize comfortably.

As introverts, we are often put in social situations that make us feel uncomfortable. Examples are small talk, noisy and crowded places, lack of privacy, etc. While dealing with these situations may be necessary at times (for example: a work event), introverts will quickly become drained of energy if they’re too overstimulated.

Suppressing the need to be in a comfortable environment can only work for a short period. So when you feel the urge to get away and take some time, by all means, do so. Trust your feelings and step away from all of the noisy stimulation. You’ll find that not only are you more energized, but you’ll also be in a much better mood to socialize later on.

Here’s the takeaway: only socialize in ways you’re comfortable with. As with not trying to fit in, don’t try to socialize if your natural tendency is to do something else. Try to find social situations that fit your preferences. Instead of having a bunch of friends over to the house, schedule dinner with a few friends. If you’re not feeling the vibe at some party, just tell your friends to expect a call or text to catch up later on.

Don’t feel bad about rejecting or leaving social invitations that you’re uncomfortable with.

3. Introverts seek like-minded people.

Let’s be honest: it’s not easy being an introvert. Extroverts dominate the culture of the United States and many other places in the Western world. They’re obligated to take charge and speak up…and we’re just fine with sitting back and listening. Both types are ultimately needed in society…it’s just a difficult partnership at times.

Perhaps the best way to avoid all of the awkwardness is to find people who think like you do! Even though extroverts outnumber introverts, there is still a heavy dose of them out there. Even though small talk is not the introvert’s strong suit (by far!), we can still strike up a like-minded conversation with a like-minded individual. For example, when you’re at the bookstore grabbing coffee, ask about the book someone has in their hand. Maybe offer to buy them a cup. See where this is going?

So instead of trying to force yourself to engage in small talk, hang out with someone who hates it just as much as you do! Find someone who thinks hanging out at a coffee shop or bookstore trumps a party. Not only is it easier to hang out with other kindred spirits, but it’s also much more enjoyable.

4. Maximize on quiet time.

Make sure that you take full advantage when you get some well-deserved quiet time. Also, make sure you do not neglect alone time to make someone else happy. This is easy to do when people make a bunch of requests of you – kids, spouses, friends, co-workers – they will make your presence a priority. But you cannot prioritize someone else above your health, which is essentially the trade-off that some introverts are making.

Remember: introverts need quiet time; it’s not an option. Just as extroverts need social stimulation, we need to recharge our batteries using solitude. Quiet time is an investment in your own mental and physical health. We have unique wiring. We must understand something very important: you can’t be there for others if you cannot be there for yourself.

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