“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person, we’re safe in our paradise.” – Richard Bach
For many of us, successfully finding one’s soulmate is the highlight of our existence. Most of us want and need a person who unconditionally provides loving care – and someone that connects with your innermost being will nourish this want and need with plenty of enthusiasm.
Discovering “The one,” “My other half,” “My dream guy/girl,” “My happily ever after,” “My soulmate,” is all the more special because of – in most cases – the elusive and challenging path required to find them.
A “soulmate” can indeed be considered a “sole-mate.” This person must embody certain qualities that connect with mutually-shared depth; qualities found in the one soul of whom you were meant to be.
Here are 11 signs that you’ve found your happily ever after:
1. Differences and opinions are fully respected
Soulmates will often share many similarities and opinions, which often reaffirms they’re the right one. However, individual differences and differences of opinion are not considered an obstacle to the overcome; rather, they’re perceived as an opportunity to “agree to disagree.” No big deal.
2. You understand each other without speaking
Most of what we “say” isn’t said at all – at least in the verbal sense. Soulmates, because of their deep interconnection, can understand the other person without them uttering a word. It’s intuition that only close, loving, and understanding people possess – and a soulmate certainly fits this description.
3. Soulmate = BFF
One’s soulmate and who they consider a “best friend” aren’t mutually exclusive. It’s been said that establishing a close friendship before intimate involvement improves a relationship’s chance of success. Whether or not your soulmate was once considered a friend, the chances are that they’re now your closest friend – or ‘BFF.’
You simply “get” each other, and personal traits are shared at a deep level.
4. Mutual agreement about the future
Imagining the same type of future is one of the most visible signs that the person is your soulmate. It also happens to be the most important. The term “honeymoon phase” is broadly applied to any kind of intimate relationship; it just happens that this phase is not really a phase for a soulmate. Why? Because things don’t “sour” or “fade” as they often do in relationships that ultimately fail.
5. Being together beats being apart (almost) every time
We all understand that alone time is important – and soulmates are adept at striking just the right balance. Trust is well-established, so time apart becomes less of an issue.
With that said, your soulmate is your BFF (remember?), and there’s a profound reciprocal quality to your relationship. This makes spending time together trump spending time apart almost every time.
6. You’re unafraid to be yourself
The chances are that you didn’t find your soulmate on your first date (if so, wow!) Remember how that sense of awkwardness caused you or your date to put up a “mask”?
Soulmates are unabashed about who they are – and their other half loves them for it, which is the most important thing.
7. The relationship is worth fighting for
There is no perfect relationship, and this includes between soulmates. Disagreements will happen, fights will take place, and various other challenges will arise.
Unlike relationships without a sound foundation, however, soulmates will fight through any and all difficulties. Your happily ever after will stick with you as your continue the fight, together.
8. You challenge each other
Not allowing your other half to rest on their laurels is a benefit. Yes, your partner will admire you for what you’ve accomplished, but they’ll also conceptualize your full potential – and make this well known.
9. Flaws and qualities are known and accepted
The chances are that your soulmate is well aware of any “defects” – and is accepting of such traits. Now, this doesn’t mean that they won’t even question them (see #8) should they perceive the flaw as a significant relationship barrier.
But “flaws” like impulsiveness, stubbornness, perfectionism, and so forth, are likely well-known by know. It’s also fair to assume that you’ve worked on them somewhat because of your soulmate – or perhaps at their behest.
10. An intense intuition
This one pertains to the beginning phases of a not-yet-intimate relationship. People that have experienced a sensation such as “love at first sight” attest to a strong sense of familiarity and cohesiveness, despite not knowing the person well.
Sometimes, well, “when it’s right, it’s right.” If you’re one of the lucky ones, then good for you!
11. They make you forget “the bad”
Have a rough day at the office? Someone rub you the wrong way? Give you a dirty look?
Embracing your happily ever after will soon make such things a distant memory. In each other’s company, soulmates are in their favorite element. They realize that – at the end of the day – any adversity was well worth it.