Men and women are different when it comes to their libidos, but both can suffer from having a low libido and wanting to increase it.
In this article, we will look at 15 things that can increase sex drive and how you can start enjoying a healthier, mature sex life with your partner today.
15 Things That Increase Your Libido
Before we talk about how to increase your libido with one or more of these things on our list, let’s discuss what libido is. According to a research paper published in the European Menopause Journal ‘Libido is a comprehensive and yet elusive word that indicates basic human mental states ‘ and their biological counterparts’ involved in the beginning of sexual behavior. It has three main roots: biological, motivational-affective and cognitive.’ To increase libido, we can focus on mental, biological, or emotional factors, or we can try to affect all three of these factors.
1. Remember the best sex you ever had
Memories of the good times that you’ve had, either with your current partner or with someone else, can make you desire sex and increase your libido.
2. Love yourself first
Loving others intimately involves an emotional vulnerability. Often, we may feel unable to give love (or sex) to another person unless we feel loveable first.
3. Eat pine nuts
Pine nuts help your body to produce nitric oxide, which dilates blood vessels. Getting your blood flowing warms the body and feels like a rush of adrenaline, which feels exciting. Pair up with your partner and your libido should jump into action.
4. Get more zinc
Zinc is essential for the production of testosterone, which is important for men’s libido. Researchers say that testosterone is not only important for men to maintain an erection, but is also important for increasing libido.
The scientists say ‘The role of sex hormones in the sexuality of men is now becoming clearer. Androgens are necessary for normal sexual appetite and for ejaculation. Erectile mechanisms, providing that appropriate erotic stimuli are available, are probably not androgen dependent.’ The researchers also say the testosterone levels required for increasing your libido probably vary from person to person.
5. Avoid soy products
For women who are post-menopausal, estrogen levels decrease, leading to pain and dryness during intercourse. Soy products contain phytoestrogen which block the estrogen receptors in the body. Blocked estrogen receptors mean that your body can’t absorb the normal estrogen.
6. Think sexy thoughts
Your brain is an important part of your libido. Give some thought to the things that turn you on about your partner or an attractive person. What do you love about their body and the way that they please you?
7. Choose to feel intense love
The emotional component of your libido is something you can control by making a decision to feel love and to release any negative emotions.
8. Open up
Honest communication is important for establishing intimacy with your partner. When you feel free to be open, you trust more, which makes you more likely to be receptive to your partner’s advances.
9. Give your libido as much thought as your appetite
When you are careful about your health, you pay attention to how hungry you really are before you eat. You can do the same thing with your sex drive.
Check in with yourself and rate your sex drive on a scale of 1 to 10 in the morning, afternoon and evening. Knowing when you feel the most turned on can help you figure out your ‘sex schedule.’
10. Just say yes, even if you aren’t in the mood
There are very few times that having sex with your partner, whom you love, is bad. There may be times when sex is less than great, like when you are sick or not feeling your best, but the act of sex can help you bond with your partner in an intimate way. This bond leads you to desire more and more intimacy, thus increasing your libido.
11. Make believe you just met your partner
Pretending to be a brand new couple is a way to heighten the excitement, anticipation, and arousal for both of you.
12. Watch a sexy movie
Viewing nude bodies doing pleasurable things to each other is sure to make you think of doing those things with your partner. Ask your partner what they enjoy watching and find a movie that you can enjoy together.
13. Use all your senses
So many people close their eyes during foreplay, for example, while kissing, and they may be missing out on an intimate moment where making eye contact can bring them more intense arousal than keeping their eyes closed.
Breathe in through your nose to use your sense of smell, listen for your partner’s moans, feel their fingers and hands, and taste the salt from their skin.
14. Make dirty jokes
Laughter is a great way to create a bond with your partner and dirty jokes between the two of you are a good way to rev up your libido. Joking with each other about your cute names that you use when you are alone is just one way to amp up your desire.
15. Touch more
Just a touch on your partner’s shoulder, hand, or back is enough to get them thinking of sex.